how do i get my wife to share her fantasies? she claims to have non whatsoever, but she is very shy. I really want her to open up to me and tell me what she would really like to do or have done to her.
2006-11-13 04:27:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try a romantic evening with her. Light candles. And after a few glasses of wine try talking about it with her. Ask her leading questions, and maybe it will come out then. Also tell her to "trust you... if she can't trust you, who can she trust?"
Key ingredient: the wine!
2006-11-13 04:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people really don't have any fantasies. For me, I don't have any either. I may have some ideas, and talk to my husband about it, or surprise him, but I don't have fantasies.
Another reason she may be embarrassed about sharing her fantasies with you. Although, it would seem weird being with a man I didn't feel comfortable sharing everything with. Try telling her what your ideas are and what you would do for her or would like her to try for you. Maybe with a little role-playing she may get into it more and talk more openly about this.
2006-11-13 05:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to her about this and explain why you want to know her fantasies and let her know that it doesn't matter what they are (so she feels comfortable talking to you about them).
I know I am having the same problem with my husband. I tell him but he claims that I have fullfilled his.
I guess if she really doesn't have any fantasies...just tune into what she likes.
2006-11-13 04:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So your wife is tighter than a clam hey? Instead of asking her,some woman just can't talk about it (shy)...... " JUST DO IT " then ask questions later...or she'll kick ya in the balls and tell ya to get off of her if she wasn't impressed...ha ha ha trial and error....trial and error.
2006-11-13 04:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it would help her if you shared some of yours. That way, she wont feel embarrassed by hers. Just go slow - don't start off with crazy wild ones until she's more comfortable.
2006-11-13 04:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When in your hot moments help her to build and elaborate them. With patience you both will discover a lot!
2006-11-13 07:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Guru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will when she is ready. Give her time
2006-11-13 04:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't push her. she may say something the you don't want to hear
2006-11-13 04:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her drunk and ask her while your fu*king her from behind
2006-11-13 04:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
ALCOHOL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-13 04:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋