My long time (6 yrs...i am 24 he is 23) boyfriend/father of my children "broke up" saturday. It has been a tough year for us and we have been fighting a lot.
The thing that confuses me is he is still living with me and we have had sex 4 times since the supposed break up. I think that sex within 24 hrs of a break up voids the break up.
he keeps saying that we are only taking a break and as soon as i get the daycare set up he is going...i told him that is he moves out he isnt moving back in because i have put up with enough of his crap and i am not going to just let him go screw with a bunch of other girls them come back to me. i have taken care of him since we got together so i told him he either stays or goes permanently and he is still there....so are we broke up
2006-11-13 04:20:07 · 12 answers · asked by Tissa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are living in a bit of a mess in which you dragged children into. This is what marriage is for, so you don't wonder whether you are married or not, one day or the next. I say you talk to him since you co-parent with him... you should be able to have conversations about your relationship. I would give this relationship a try.. maybe try counselling.. and ask him what it would take for you two to stay together. Obviously physical attraction isn't the issue.. but there could be many things you two may need to work on to make the environment enjoyable for both of you. The kids are FIRST priority, so keep this in mind.
2006-11-13 04:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think as long as he is still there and you are still having sex, that seals the "together" deal. If he wants a break, I agree he should go and NOT have the option of coming back!
2006-11-13 12:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with what "Katya-Zelen" said.
If he has been cheating on you and has said he wants to break up, why are YOU still sleeping with him?
Having sex with him, isn't a good option while you're in limbo land. Seems like he is using you for sex.
Do you want to work things out? Whatever your decision is, come to it and stick to it. Be firm, don't be wishy washy, otherwise he'll end up walking all over you.
If he has said, I'm staying (or I'm staying if you will let me... after his screw ups, it would be nice if he ASKED your permission) he's most likely staying, assuming you want him to/let him.
If he hadn't retracted his statement of I'm going as soon as you get day care, then I would think he's still planning on getting out.
Do you care about him? Do you WANT him to stay? Do you WANT to try to get things worked out?
Ask yourself this, and if you say no to any one of them, YOU need to break up with him.
Is he the kind of example of a man you want your children to be around, or think is okay behavior?
Good luck. Be true to yourself and follow your heart.
Tree~
2006-11-13 12:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Tree S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen to me before...It doesn't seem as though he is serious about your relationship. To me it seems like he wants to still have sex with you but not with the commitment or "label" of being together. Don't let yourself be used by him! Maybe he is still there for the physical aspect of your relationship? It's not fair to you...it doesn't seem like he is serious about working on your relationship and he's being unfair by having sex with you and then telling you you are on a break...Don't wait for him to come around! GOod luck.
2006-11-13 12:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy1316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you sleeping with him still? Stop doing that. Having sex doesn't mean you are still together. He's a man. He'll take it if you offer it.
Have a talk with him (not strangers on a computer). Find out where you stand.
2006-11-13 12:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Katya-Zelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, but you have to stop having sex with him coz he might still think that you cannot live without him. Its time for you to stand up and make rules in the house or else he is just going to use you as like what he is doing now (still living in your place)
2006-11-13 12:35:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem Girl?
Dont let him use you .. all he wants is to run away from responsibility leaving you to rais the children ..
You must confront him and define broders for your relationship .. fast!
2006-11-13 12:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Meesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still broken up. I would halt the breakup sex because that just makes it harder for you to get out.
2006-11-13 12:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He considers you broken up. But he's using you for sex, among other things.
2006-11-13 12:24:12 · answer #9 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are working on it, if you aren't already. Sex sounds like remorse sex, but not make-up sex.
2006-11-13 12:22:22 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋