my girlfriends brother is always asking her for rides to and from work, he ask's all the time to use the truck to go get something to eat or go to the bank etc... a few times he has been gone for hours.he always say's he'll give us gas money but never does once in awhile he will wash it while he's out and we know he only does it so we wont say anything about the gas money, but its gotten to the point were we wont pick up the phone sometimes when he calls cause we know most of the times its he needs a ride somewhere its getting really annoying i mean she loves her brother and tries to help but i feel like he takes advange sometimes? any advice always help
2006-11-13 04:19:02 · 7 answers · asked by blueeyes3313 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, get over the guilt. Most of saying no is about how you feel about yourself. Practice in the mirror. Also plan your no in advance. Know what the person is going to do when you say no and get ready for it.
Stand your ground. Don't defend. No is no.
No, I can't give you my car. No I can't pick you up or drop you off. You do NOT need to give a reason. No is no. Don't get in the trap i\of having to explain, because that will start the engagement that means you're open to saying yes. Are you?
2006-11-13 04:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell him that he must hand her gas money BEFORE she is willing to give him the keys to that truck. If he has money to wash it then he has money for a couple of gallons of gas. I wouldn't accept him telling her that HE will put gas in the truck. I would as for money first! This way she can ensure that she will be able to put a few dollars in there after he runs it dry.
2006-11-13 05:36:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i advise to both of you that you jusut tell him to come over so you guys can have a talk. just talk calmly and say something like you use our truck a lot and we dont want to sound mean but we need the gas mooney from you. we appreciate you washing the truck, but we do need the gas money. just calmy.
2006-11-13 04:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he ask just say no. The only reason you will feel guilty is if you could have done it but decided not to. If you are fed up then just say NO.
2006-11-13 04:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very easy to say no just practice in a mirror lol no i would just tell him look i dont have time.. i know how hard it is to tell a family member no but she has to look out for herself
2006-11-13 04:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no....He can only make her feel guilty if she allows him to....Why should she feel guilty? He is using his sister...if he had gas money, he would have his own car....
2006-11-13 05:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say dude u owe me tons of gas money...
2006-11-13 05:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by M.L.C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋