Why do so many of you think it is OK?
Fooling people and telling them it is a 'natural thing'. Why can't you just accept that it is for procreation purposes that God wanted us to have. Why can't you just get it through you're head that it is a SIN before marriage?
Why do you tell people it is natural leading them to commit a SIN that can forever ruin their life, and connection with God?
Why? If it was so 'natural' how comes I don't feel the need to do it until AFTER marriage? Why do I feel more connected with God than anyone else? Why can't you just love a person without having to get sexual, but just loving them as a PERSON? Seeing who they really are inside? Just being one ewith the person? But no, you want to bring sexual acts into it because it's 'natural' and 'beautiful between people who really love eachother' as you guys say.
2006-11-13 04:16:11 · 30 answers · asked by I'm a HBIC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you. I'm with YOU. Even among people who love and try to please GOD, they still struggle with it. It is because of our sin nature. We don't REALLY believe that "the wages of sin is death." I take this literally to mean "sin is death." SOMETHING dies. The world makes it seem okay. We know it is wrong. Its the age old world vs. WORD scenario Teen Queen. It's sad. I was a "secondary" virgin before I got married. I was a Mom at age 21 and did not let God be first in my life. I claimed to love Him more than anything but I didn't. When I realized what the Word of God said about it all and how it really does apply to ME as an individual, I tried to get things in order. Many don't realize their own blindness and are more offended by you telling them right from wrong than by sin. Well, I'm sure I'll get lots of thumbs down because I mentioned God and sin and all that, but oh well. Only God can judge me and I love ANSWERS no matter what!!
Peace
2006-11-13 04:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Live and let live without judgment. If you aren't comfortable with sex before marriage, then that's fine for you, yet it sounds as if you are unable to see that others don't necessarily share the same beliefs and values, which somehow makes them wrong. There is no right or wrong, good or bad here. It's a matter of personal choice, independence and freedom. You assume that God is a given. You assume that the Bible is something more factual than a human interpretation of stories. The fact is that marriage is a man-made institution, where natures way of bringing a man and a woman together to mate has been the way long since before the concept of marriage and religion. Is your sin of judgment against others any less than their theoretical sins of the flesh? Maybe the question is; Why do believers feel so compelled to impose their faith upon the the rest of us? What happened to the Golden Rule? Maybe we should ask Ted Haggard his opinion on this matter.
2006-11-13 12:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by seattlego 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
C'mon, you can't be serious... How do *you* know what is it that god meant or did not mean for us to have? If god is THIS easy to figure out - what kind of god is it? I don't think anyone can say "I KNOW what god meant to do"; we're all going on hunches, guesses and assumptions - and on what we are or are not comfortable with. If you're not comfortable with sex before marriage - by all means, don't have it. But allow for the fact that some people's comfort zone is different from yours. What is "sin" for one person can be a normal expression of emotion for another. Neither one can prove the other wrong, so all of us should take a deep breath and thank whatever god we wish for living in a country that allows for the free expression of whatever belief one chooses to express.
2006-11-13 12:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Babygirl most of the people who answered so far obviously have no problem w/sex before marriage based on their plethora of excuses 2 break Yahweh's Laws on marriage. That's the way of this world that is bein led/blinded by Satan. Yahweh's blessins 2 u fer NOT givin in 2 the pressures of this world 2 'do what feels good'! However, sex is NOT strictly fer procreation! It's also fer the mutual sexual satisfaction of the husband & wife in the most intimate lovin way possible between 2 people. Remember the Bible also says they r 2 desire each other.
2006-11-13 12:38:06 · answer #4 · answered by OLD BALLS 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't believe in your mythos, and therefore do not believe it as truth. This is your truth, not mine.
I have sex because I like to have sex. When I don't want to have sex, I don't. When I do want to have sex, I do. Sex is natural and normal.
Who told you I have to love the person I have sex with? Love and sex are two very distinct and different things. Now, it just so happens I love my husband who is the only person I have sex with. I only have sex with my husband because it is an agreement we came to out of respect for each others health.
From what you say I should only have sex to have children. Well, what about people who can't have children, should they remain chaste for their entire lives?
My favorite line of yours is, "Why do I feel more connected with God than anyone else?" I find this line to be pompous, and self-righteous. Perhaps you should try a little more piousness and modesty in your life and thoughts.
2006-11-13 13:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow someone needs to get laid!!!
Anyway who are you to judge me or anyone else for that matter?? You want to wait to have sex until you get married wonderful I applaud you for being YOU and that's all. But when you start preaching and judging others, looking down on those whose views differ from yours then I have a problem with "you", and those like "you"! Those of you who claim to be soooo religious and have "real men love Jesus" on your cars, wear WWJD bracelets, and eat, sleep, and breath Jesus are the most delusional individuals on the planet! It's those of you whom have done something so horrible in your lives that have caused you to all of a sudden be born again under a new light and your now oh so holy. I am a good person who does not judge others and am religious. Making the comments you just made gives me the right to voice my opinion of you otherwise left to yourself I would of never had an issue with you. Wake up its 2007!!
2006-11-13 12:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
You are taking the view of God and religion in the context of sex of what you believe it is to mean. You believe it is for procreation purposes and relates to SIN if before marriage. What you need to realize is that not everyone holds the same religious views as yourself. Sex means different things for different people and just because you hold religious views for yourself doesn’t mean that others require or need to believe in what you do. You may find someone who is of your same views and then find that they pick and choose what they like about a religon as well.
2006-11-13 12:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the ideal is celebacy, marriage is second, but I don't find anywhere in the Bible where it says that sex before marriage is strictly a sin. If you're saying we should all live up to the ideal, then we should all be celibate, but even Paul and Jesus say that not everyone is up to that. I for one am not. The second-to-ideal is to wait until you're married and have only one spouse your whole life and never have sex with anyone but them. The problem is when people try to take control of their own bodies, rather than give up control of their bodies to their spouse. Take even Tamar, the mother of Perez, that Judah took when he thought she was a prostitute: she was called righteous for what she did! Why is that? She did what her dead husband would have wanted.
2006-11-13 12:31:17 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You are so right on the money honey!!!!! Except that it wasn't just for procreation. God is so awesome in his creation of us that we actually desire the "being one flesh." I hope more of what you have rubs off on your friends. The best present you can give your husband is yourself ... unspoiled and pure. You can also be assured of the man that will take you as his wife is marrying you for all the right reasons. God honors marriage. If you involve him in all you do he will bless all you do.
2006-11-13 12:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Kerrie 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
So people who cannot (or choose not to) procreate cannot have sex? You've just made a lot of post-menopausal women lonely and bored.
If sex is JUST for procreation, why did G*d put an errogenous zone in your butthole? There's no procreation going on there, and yet your maker made you capable of experiencing great pleasure down in there.
If sex is JUST for procreation, what is the purpose of a woman's orgasm? She can get pregnant without having an orgasm, and some women never do, so why did G*d make a woman capable of having one?
If sex is JUST for procreation, why did G*d make a woman capable of having more than one orgasm during a single lovemaking session?
If sex is JUST for procreation in marriage, why did G*d make a man capable of having more than one orgasm in a day? Could it be because BIOLOGICALLY a species chance for survival is based on polygamy, not monogamy? Once he's shot-off in a woman, she's good for the day (procreationally speaking,) but he can keep going. This is the DESIGN, so explain that, please.
2006-11-13 12:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋