my sister is 14 and she wants to have a baby but she is to young she wants to follow in my foot steps im sixteen wit a 4 month old and having another i told her that being a parent is not what it seems can some body help her please.
2006-11-13 04:03:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Maybe you could try having her spend some time watching your child. Make her responsible for the child for a set amount of time. Maybe a weekend? Don't help her, let her see how difficult it can be.
And maybe more importantly, be a better example for her!
2006-11-13 04:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by ezgoin92 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents MUST know about this. However, since they cannot be with her 24/7 (due to school, etc) this girl will make her own decision (God forbid). I would let her take care of the baby (with your supervision, but no comment unless the baby was in danger) for 48-72 hours (on a weekend) to let her "experience" motherhood. Her deal would be to TOTALLY agree to do this (again with your supervision). Point out to her AFTER the trial what went right, what could have been improved upon, and what generally would not be acceptable in the long run, and she may see the light. If not, ask your parents to help schedule her for a parenting seminar with the Red Cross or some other organization or ask the school if they have a program where she can "experience" being pregnant and raising a child (wearing a body suit to simulate pregnancy, and a realistic schedule of a baby's demands). Maybe that will help.
If this girl is determined, it is a tough road to get her out of the mindset and even tougher to control her sexual behavior without locking her up. I just hope she isn't that stupid, because that is one DUMB idea.
2006-11-13 12:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit your sister down and tell her the good parts about having a baby but also the bad parts,like, not getting to go to college, not spending a lot more time with your friends, not having fun b/c your main priority wil be the baby, waking up in the middle of the night to take care of your baby's need.
2006-11-13 12:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by shenequa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man you already know you did wrong, why do people find it necessary to tell you what you did is wrong when you are asking for help to keep your sister from repeating your mistake? I think you should tell your parents what she is thinking so they can get her on BC as soon as possible. I really do not want to judge your parents, but why after your first pregnancy, did they not put you on birth control? Most parents would've put you on BC immediately after birth and then went to the younger sister. If you need someone to talk to instant message me angels_among_us7777
2006-11-13 14:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of con-grats on the baby!Tell your parents.To teach her what it is to be a teen mom leave her your 4month old baby for 24 hours start on a school day and let her see how hard it is to take care of the baby don't help or anything i bet she'll learn a lesson by that. :)
2006-11-15 15:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Beautiful Fat Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I was 20 when I had my first and it was so hard. I'm sure you, being 16 know that having a child changes everything! I would just advise her that she will have absolutely no life. She's had no time for herself yet and needs to wait until she's had all of her fun before committing to such a thing!!
2006-11-13 12:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by KC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she wants a baby? If she says it looks fun. Let her watch urs for a lil while, I mean don't leave her alone, but have her change every diaper and giver her all her feedings pluse do all her homework. I don't think she'll want one after all that
2006-11-13 16:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Morbid Fairy Dust 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are kids. Too bad you don't seem to have a proper adult supervision. I would advise you to try and concentrate on learning something or a career, so that when it is time for her to be a mother, she will be ready and her life will be beautiful. With All my love.
2006-11-13 12:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 16 and have 1 already and are having another one! Stop making such a great example for her, and maybe she wouldn't want to be just like you!
2006-11-13 14:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. It isn't your job to raise your younger sister but it certainly helps to set a good example. Good luck.
2006-11-13 12:06:25 · answer #10 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋