I went throgh sexual harrasment as a teen a few years a go when i was fifteen. Ever since thin- most of my uncles in my dad's and mom's side of the family are trying to "hook Up' with me which is scary. There's one specific uncle in my mom's side that has been trying to harrass me lately. I'm 24 and a single parents now. This specific uncle used to give me moneya nd candy as a child because he said i was the prettiest niece he had and that someday iw as gonna grow up to be a charmer or whatever bull that means. YEsterday he came from texas to visit family and i had to drive him to another family members' house.. For soem reason- iw as really scared on the drive there. My son was in teh back seat and my uncle was in the passenger seat. He kept tuching my leg and rubbing my neck asking how i was & such. I t never occured to me that his "touching" was in any sexual way. Suddenly he told me that he had always fantazised about making love to me
2006-11-13
04:03:09
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because i was always a very pretty chick. Since i had gone thrgouh this kind of harrasment before- i went into shock. I lost my voice i could hardly breathe! while i was driving he was saying all of this to me and i wanted to tell him to get the F' out of my car bout couldn't. Whne iwas a kid and i told my aunt his wife that he was giving me money and buying me stuff kuz he though i was pretty they got into a big argument and almost got divorced i was like 10. Since then- i was afraid of them separaeting because i lvoe my uncles very much and after that- i didn;t tell my aunt anything anymore. Now- he thinks he can keep doing what he's trying to do and i want to tell someone without it coming back to my aunt. They have 3 kids together 1 pair of 2 year old twins and my little cousins who's 14. I 'm scared my the 1 year old because i know what he;s capable of doing. What should i do? i 'm scared but i want him to know it has to stop.!!
2006-11-13
04:07:44 ·
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You need to seperate yourself from those people! That is not acceptable behavior.
As hard as it may be you have got to do what is best for you and your son and people like this are not!!!
Please seek counseling for youself. You have a son that needs you !
I am a single parent too. And it's hard but you have got to stick to what is best for you and your son.
Follow your gut -stay away!
2006-11-13 04:07:52
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answered by Carla M 1
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What you need to do is just think what you would do if he did that to your son and then it becomes a simple answer on what to do. First you needed to tell him he was way out of line and then you needed to tell someone else about his behavior whether they beleive you or not...then stay far away from him and any other family members that tolerate this behavior. You have a child to think about now and the last thing you'd want is for this behavior to be around him.
2006-11-13 04:26:19
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answered by Cina 1
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Gosh, is that scary! You HAVE to tell someone. What he did was not right. Maybe your Aunt knows something you don't?? He was making sexual advances at you. You are family! Yuck! Please tell someone soon. What if your son was not in the car?? What would he have done? Please, NEVER be alone with this man. He is dangerous. I would tell him to stop and that if he doesn't, you will contact the police. Tell your Mom or Dad, and be serious about it. This man is a sicko! He needs help. It is not your fault.
2006-11-13 04:22:20
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answered by looloo1122 5
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Talk to your Mom right away and let her do some talking to the uncles. Any uncles coming by refuse to see them and make your stance known. You are not a sex object for any one Be bold and ready to kick the guy where it hurts
2006-11-13 04:11:26
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answered by Anonymous
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Stay away from him/them and tell your parents . It's not your fault. Your Aunt/s married a pervert/s and has known it a long time. I doubt you were his/their first. What about the other girls in the family? Have you talked with them? If you/they ever have daughters, these actions will continue with them. You should even watch your son around him/them.
2006-11-13 04:12:36
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answered by honiebyrd 4
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I honestly think that you should talk to other family members about this, mainly your mom or dad. some one who is close to you and this uncle if this does not help you, you should report him. if you dont feel comfitable doing any of these things then get away from him dont let him get in the way of your live
2006-11-13 04:10:07
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answered by tinkrenee 1
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thats just nasty..you need to put a stop to that, your not a little kid anymore, if you have to confront him in front of people so your not so scared, then do it..if you say nothing, they will think it is ok, or that you like it and keep doing it...and remind him he is your uncle..and that incest is immoral....sounds like he needs professional help..
2006-11-13 04:10:05
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answered by donttalkjustplay05 4
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eewwwwww get away as far as you can...this is some sick jerry springer sh*t..eewww don't ever be alone with any of this crazy nasty people... for any reason even if your trying to be nice always take a friend with you or just don't do any favores where you have to be alone with them
2006-11-13 04:09:13
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answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4
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i think you should get waya.. run!! thisis so sick why dont you tell your mom about it.. i think uneed to go to therapy . i went thru that too but it was with a grampa.. so i say u seek therapy b/c it did really afected me as i was growing.. up GO RUN AWAY AND TELL ON THEM !
2006-11-13 04:06:26
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answered by Dr. Truth 3
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