I'm 17 and when i told my mother i was 1month she tryed to kill me
then the next day i lost the baby because of stress but now i dont know how to tell my boyfriend i lost it and my friends to what should i do?
2006-11-13 03:49:46 · 11 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I can't tell you what you should do - that's really something you have to decide for your self, as you are in the best position to know the circumstances. However, I personally believe that being truthful is usually the best policy - the problem with lying or concealing the truth is that it usually comes out any way and the results are then worse than being upfront from the beginning. Also, I suggest you have a medical exam, if you have not had one since losing the baby, (you did not mention if you had medical care at that time). There are free clinics where an exam can be done. This may prevent medical complications that could arise otherwise.
2006-11-13 04:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by mustang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is not related to miscarriage. Most miscarriages occur because the baby is not growing normally. Miscarriage is a very difficult thing to go through. You should take good care of yourself, get plenty of rest, eat healthfully, and surround yourself with people who will support you. If your mother is not someone you can rely on, perhaps you have another relative or maybe the mother of one of your friends who you can confide in. Do not expect your boyfriend or your friends to understand fully how devastated you feel about losing your baby. They are young, as are you. Use birth control every time you have sex until you are financially secure enough to support yourself and a baby, too. Telling your boyfriend is only a matter of telling him that something went wrong and you miscarried the baby. It was not your fault or anyone else's fault, it was just something that happened. Enjoy being young and wait to become a mom. You and your future babies will be better for it.
2006-11-13 04:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though you may be devastated, this may be a blessing in disguise. A child is a big responsibility, one no 17 year old should have to deal with. Concentrate on the fact that it wasn't meant to be this time, maybe when you are older.
DON"T try to get pregnant again! Enjoy your youth!
Just sit down with your bf and confide in him. If you are close enough to have sex, you should be able to talk to him about this and how you are feeling.
As to you saying your mother tried to 'kill' you. Were you speaking figuratively or did she literally try to harm you? If she attempted to physically hurt you, you need to find an adult you can confide in for safety.
2006-11-13 04:00:05 · answer #3 · answered by ezgoin92 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't start looking at all the negative things about the situation. look at it this way, you lost the baby for a reason it wasn't meant to be, maby you weren't ready maby he wasn't ready. you have to come out with it no matter what its better if he hears an honest and true response from you, let him know how you really feel about this all and, try to calmly talk to your mom about this the deeper the talk you have with her the closet this will bring you too together despite what happened.
2006-11-13 04:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Isabel! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way is to first sit down with your boyfriend first to break the news to him.... tell him exactly what happened.... show him that you care enough about him not to lie to him.... let him know how scared you are about it.... then you both can decide on how to break the news to your friends.... it is going to be hard.... but being only 17 you will have time to be a parent later.... don't worry to much it will happen again.... you're too young to have a kid, you're just a kid yourself.... but tell your boyfriend FIRST then you can worry about telling everyone else.... if he was going to be the father.... he needs to know first....
2006-11-13 03:57:17 · answer #5 · answered by mayangel_20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them the truth how it all happened. Stress can be a KEY factor in m/c. Let them know how your mom reacted and how stressed your were and you lost the baby.
2006-11-13 03:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by 1 luvly LEO 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray
2006-11-13 03:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by arenaimage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take your b/f somewhere, where it is calm and relaxing. Lead into the bad news, and tell him that ya'll will make it and everything will be alright.
2006-11-13 03:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by shenequa t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually, everyone will know. Just wait for them to ask.
2006-11-13 04:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lynda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u definitly have to tell them i mean ok well first
why the hell did your mom try to kill you thats weird
and well just tell them it sthat easy
2006-11-13 03:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by AlOnEiNtHeRaIn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋