Whos word would you believe family or husband and there is not prove just words??
2006-11-13 02:27:19 · 38 answers · asked by jules 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay i was going to add specifics for example family members are saying husband tried to seduce your sister! Would you believe them?
2006-11-13 02:30:08 · update #1
i wouldnt really need to ask this sort of thing but my sister has been giving me the cold shoulder for some time now. My whole family dislikes my husband from the word go anyway, its just I have children to consider thanks anyway people
2006-11-13 02:37:02 · update #2
Depends upon what the situation is. If it's something with a ring of truth to it that sounds like something he used to do, I'll probably wonder if my family is right. My family is not dishonest, just crazy.
2006-11-13 02:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your FAMILY is correct
hey he has been putting the moves on her to say the least maybe more happened.
ask your sister out for lunch Saturday and go somewhere you can order a few drinks, just talk OLD times and how much she meant and means to you..sister are a gift from God, and get a few drinks into her and start leaning towards your husband and how you think he may be messing around with a few other girls at work ...that should get her to at least ask you some questions and then maybe open up to you about what DID happen to her with him...
be smooth, ( your not lying about the other girls, you aren't saying you know for sure, you just have these feelings, and that is not a lie ) but be ready to follow up when she asks you what girls, say I am not sure, but he comes home smelling like perfume and late some times and he rushes right into the shower...that may make her open up to you.but be ready for what you may hear and find out..
family in that case for sure, hands down not even a contest in this one.
good luck
smile
2006-11-13 06:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Who has anything to gain by lying about it? Who has the most to lose? If there is no proof either try ang get some or just dismiss the whole thing as Gossip. However if you don't trust that your husband is telling you the truth it is quite likely that there is already a problem with your relationship. A relationship will never really work properly without trust.
2006-11-13 02:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by sleekwalrus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends. If you have a "loving" and "honest" relationship with your family with no "history" of "deception", I'd listen to what they were saying. However, if they dislike your husband and may have any ulterior motives, then you need to take that into consideration. Would they have any reason to make something like that up?
What kind of relationship do you have with your husband? Do you love and respect each other? Do you trust him? Only you know the answers to these questions.
This is a decision that only you can make. I don't know your family or husband so I'd only be guessing. I think it comes down to who do you trust the most?
Good luck.
2006-11-13 02:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the situation? I mean if my sister said my husband came on to him then no way, I would believe my husband. But if they saw my husband with someone or something I would really have to question my husband.
Plus is it somebody you can trust in your family or is it one of those family members that spread rumors on the whim of things when they get bored.
I would really like to here the details of the story and then decide.
2006-11-13 02:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the situation. Do you trust your family? Do they like your husband? Just flat out ask the details about the situation first without your husband around and they 2nd with him there.
If your family doesn't like him it could be an attempt to get you all away from each other.
I'd dig a little deeper to find out the details. Then go from there.
2006-11-13 02:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
They say every rumor has a grain of truth in it. You have to look at your family's motive in sharing the information with you. If they don't like your husband and think he's bad for you, their judgment might be clouded. Before you approach this subject with your husband. Investigate, first. Make sure you have all the facts possible.
Nothing stays a secret forever. So don't rush into anything. Keep your eyes open. Listen to the family grapevine. The truth will come out sooner or later. Good luck.
2006-11-13 02:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by Balou 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would askmy family for specific details. What do they mean? What did they see him do or say, supposedly? I'd speak with my sister and see what she had to say. This should give you some clearer idea. Then I would approach the subject in an indirect way with your husband. With the information you gain from all this, you should then follow your instincts, which will probably be right. I don't think that one should believe one's family just because they're family or one's mate just because he's your mate. Don't be manipulated in either direction.
2006-11-13 02:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by Antonio 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That depends on a lot of factors. Does anyone have an motive for gaining something if you believe him/her? Has your husband ever kept anything from you or lied to you? How about your family? Since marriage is based on trust, I would opt with trusting your husband unless he has ever been dishonest with you in the past.Then, you might believe a trusted member of your family.
2006-11-13 02:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends why would your family lie?
if they really dont like him and havent for a long time - then i would tend not to believe them as it could be a reason to try and split you guys up!
or if this is just out of the blue - and have had no prob with ur hubby before then i would seriously be doubting my husband !
and only you know this hun, whether your family got on with him before or not! good luck and im sorry xx
why would they lie anyway? are your family known for stirring things or for not getting along with them. how close are you and what have they got to gain from this? i truly dont think yuor family would lie for no reason, unless they were f****d up?! xx
2006-11-13 02:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋