of her psycho garbage. She and the Dad are not together and she HAS to have control over every situation and if not, she yells at me! I have my own kids and life, don't need this. She is one of those 'poor me' people who twists anything anyone says depending on her mood. I have tried to be nice and supportive of her- but it is time to cut the ties. Suggestions on how I do this since she is so darn dramatic???
2006-11-13 02:26:57 · 9 answers · asked by Smilingcheek 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would tell her that you find that you do not have time or energy anymore to babysit for her. You must be up front with her and tell her that you have had enough of her "oh woe is me" routine as it has begun to stress you out. As we learn more about people we find that they are just not who we want as friends and we move on. Time for you to move on away from her drama. Good luck to you... I suggest you unplug your phone after you tell her for abit.
2006-11-13 02:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, sometimes friendships can be very difficult. It's admirable that you tried to be "supportive" but some people never appreciate anything you do for them.
Obviously you understand that "she" is the one with "problems", don't let her make her problems "yours"! Tell her the truth, as difficult as that may be. She isn't the type of "friend" you need or deserve.
Friends treat each other with respect, support and consideration. They don't "yell at each other" and try to "control" everything.
If she's that "dramatic", maybe you shouldn't tell her in person. No one needs a "yelling and screaming" match. Phone calls can be equally bad, she could just "hang up" on you before you have a chance to explain.
Maybe you could put your feelings in writing. That would give you time to make sure you say everything you want to say, and present it in an appropriate manner. It would give her time to "digest" what you've said without feeling a need to "confront" you.
Only you can decide the best way to "handle" this situation and I wish you all the best with it. I do agree though that you really don't need a "friend" like that in your life (especially when you have children). Good luck!
2006-11-13 11:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To avoid harshness and not make it seem anything but casual, try making an excuse using hobbies or children. Say you have no time to babysit because your children want to take up a project at home (painting bedrooms, making cookies, going out for the day shopping, a trip to the park.) Or- use a hobby such as a new cooking class or trips to the gym, or sudden interest in any type of activity that helps you avoid getting involved with her.
2006-11-13 10:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by JellybeanQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and tell her that you won't be able to babysit for her anymore and that you have your own life that you have to deal with. She needs to stop having this "poor me" attitude and take charge of her life. You as a friend have done everything for her and you supported her as well. She has taken advantage of you and you don't deserve that at all. The line has to be drawn somewhere plus she can find somebody else to watch her kids. If all doesn't go well, at least you know who your true friend is. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a experience with a similar type of a person in my life.
I would make up something like other things going on in your life that needs more attention right now and you need to quit babysitting, give a proper two week notice.
Or you can just tell her that your doctor said that you need some time to yourself because who've been stressed out lately and need some time to yourself and your family for the time being and need to quit.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 10:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in your shoes I would sit down with her and explain that you can't deal with her personal problems. You have your own personal problems. You will happily care for her children, but you don't want her to have any discussions with you that don't concern care of the children anymore. Tell her, if she can't agree to that, she'll have to find another babysitter. Then, she has a choice. If she continues her behavior, she knows ahead of time that you will call her and tell her you can't sit for her any longer.
2006-11-13 10:38:47 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a cousin that is very dramatic and you just have to either let it go or stop talking to them.
2006-11-13 10:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by ericarae1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny you don't have to listen to her if your friend is a real friend she will understand why you are doing this.we all have enough stress in our lives you don't need someone Else's to.
2006-11-13 10:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by jt_420_2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her 2 go f*** herself cuz, u don't like her anymore.
2006-11-13 10:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋