I don't get in troubles, get good grades and have a kinda good relatioinship w/ my parents. I talk to them and never lie. But saturday I ended up giving in to per pressure, joined a crowd my parents don 't ike that much and went on a motorcylcke ride w/ a 15 yo boy. Murphy law, we had a small accident. Nothing seriuos, I just hurt my knee a bit. My dad saw, asked what had happened,. I was so ashamed that I said I had slipped on a stair. He said Oh hun, washed my wound, put a medicine on it. I felt terribly bad cause I was lying, and even worse cause dad gave me a kiss and said Now it won't hurt any more. Well, apparently everthing is OK, but my conscience hurts really bad. My parents are nice, trust me, dad belived me though my shirt was torn, and I wasn't enough honest to admit I had messed up. I can't sleep, but Im kinda ashamed. Should I tell them the truth and apologize? I'm afraid they do'nt trust me any more. Should I be punished?
2006-11-13 02:14:57 · 15 answers · asked by Angela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell them. Everyone makes mistakes it is unfortunately a part of growing up your parents know what it is like!At first when you tell them what you did they will probably be dissapointed in you, but they will also be glad you told them and it will reasure them that if you ever do anything bad, you will always tell them. Besides, parents always find out the truth in the end and it is WAY better that you tell them yourself (trust me) Just start out mom, dad, I lied to you and I feel very bad about it... You sound like your "good" clean record so you won't lose your parents trust, it takes way more than that to do so. Though if your still worried about it affecting their trust of you, offer to do some chores around the house or pay for the shirt (along with any punishment you may get for lying)
Trust me, even if you get punished you will feel WAY better (and stay away from that crowd by the way)
2006-11-13 02:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by terra_chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents will appreciate that you have a conscience and came clean. You will probably be punished for lying however but honestly - the punishment will feel better then the lying! Also - your punishment will be worse if your parents find out from someone else. Not only will they feel stupid in front of the people who told them - they will hear it as gossip and the facts might be totally wrong.
It takes a lot of courage to come clean and your parents will be disappointed y ou lied but proud of you for you integrity with coming forth.
When I was 14 I skipped school and the teacher spotted me leaving the school. I was on pins and needles for DAYS waiting to see if the teacher would call and tell my parents. The waiting and seeing was way more punishment then the grounding I would have gotten! I am 34 years old now and still remember how horrible I felt 20 years ago!!
Good luck.
2006-11-13 02:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by family_matters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a dilema! Well heres both sides of that coin
#1 you have worked very hard at develping and maintaining a trusting loving relationship with your parents wich is a truly wonderful thing, being a good kid is tough these days and we all slip up once in a while and feel bad for it. you could tell your parents and lay it all on the table and promise to never do such a thing again (its dangerous!) and take your punishment. This will hurt your parents for sure that you lied to begin with but they are far more likly to trust you again later down the road (you will have to work on regainning that trust)
#2 You could just take the lesson you've learned suck it up and move on and not ever do anything to potentially hurt yourself again and loose your parents trust, thus not hurting them with the knowledge of wha you did.
However going it alone is difficult and can be very painful to deal with the guilt and saddness alone and yoru parents sound pretty Awesome so I would trust them to help you make the right choices and help keep you safe in the future
Good luck to you
2006-11-13 03:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you apologize, you will feel much better. Two problems are: 1. You should not be going our with a 15 year old boy at your age and 2. You should not be riding on a motorcycle.
Just say, "Dad, I want to tell you something. I lied about how I hurt my knee. I feel terrible. I want to be able to be honest with you about everything. I'm really sorry."
Most likely he will be touched by your honesty. He will talk to you about the problems with what you did. There may be some punishment, but you will feel much better afterwards. Good luck.
2006-11-13 02:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were you thinking ? !!!!!!! You told 2 lies The first one was in your question when you said that you gave in to peer pressure. You didn't give in. If your being honest, you wanted to go on the ride. Otherwise you wouldn't have gone. Nobody forced you on that bike and chained you there did they.? The second lie was to your parents. You should tell them the truth. Once you have started the lies only get easier. You want your parents to trust you,? Then tell them the truth now. !!!
2006-11-13 02:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi -
As hard as it seems, you should come clean with them, they seem like very wonderful parents, I think they will be upset at first but will come around, and all will be forgiven, just don't let it happen again, I am a mother of a 8 year old and a 5 year old, but I was a teen ager at one time, and I did not have the relationship with my parents like you seem to have, I wish that I had, and am trying hard to build that with my kids, I really hope that if you have not already done so let them know what happened, it won't be easy but you will feel better.
Good Luck
2006-11-13 02:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow..you are a good girl...well since you are so conscience about your acts and feel bad that's enough for you to realized how much your parents care and love you.
I think you should forget about what happend since you do realize that what you did could have ended up bad..like you dying or getting really hurt. I think you should not hang out with these bad kids anymore and forget about telling your parents now since you already lied..it's ok...don't say anything and don;t dissappoint them in the future by giving into peer pressure..comeon you know right from wrong...
Just know that ...you have learned a big lesson from this...move on..it's ok...
2006-11-13 02:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason your conscience is bothering you is because you know you did something wrong. Your father sounds like a good man. I bet if you went to him and explained what happened, he would understand. Go to him and tell him everything. Promise never to do it again and keep that promise. I bet your father will be so proud of you for admitting your mistake that there will be no punishment. Good luck!
2006-11-13 02:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Nightmare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to judge who you were with or whether or not you shoud be punished. However, in order to keep yourself out of any more trouble you should tell your parents. If they see you were mature enough to come clean then that should mean something. We all make mistakes no one is perfect, remember that. It's ok to slip and fall sometimes as long as we pick ourselves up right?
2006-11-13 03:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Heather P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell them the truth. Your concience can really bug you when you don't tell the truth. Apologize and take the consequences, although I am certain that you father will be proud of you for telling the truth and that trust that you restore will far outweigh any punishment that comes.
2006-11-13 04:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋