and you've even discussed what each others concerns were but still you don't see any signs or indication of things changing for the better. What would you do?
2006-11-13 02:13:02 · 14 answers · asked by Mr. Incredible 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For me, I have children- so I try harder.
Who's to say that all relationships don't end up in the stale state after a while? I believe once the staleness gets to be too great, and is very noticeable...it's time to try something different. Get a hobby or interest together to jump start time together and provoke more talking.
2006-11-13 02:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think it's good that you are able to discuss your concerns and problems. Communication is a big part of any relationship. If both of you are equally "unhappy and dissatisfied" with your marriage, what's the point?
People change and sometimes they grow in different directions. It doesn't make one or both partners "evil" or "wrong". Life is far too short to remain in a relationship that you both know isn't working.
Sounds to me like you should think about "moving on". Hopefully you can both leave on good terms as long as you are "up front" and "honest" about your feelings.
I'm sorry, and I wish you all the best.
2006-11-13 10:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only thing left to do. What good can come out of two people living together when they are both miserable? Absolutely nothing. If there are not children involved as yet, I say talk it over and go your own way. This would be a marriage that would never be good for raising self-confident children. What ever you decide, I hope it's good for both. Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Split the sheets. If you can agree that things can't ever change, write up a contract for divorce and do it yourselves, she gets this, you get that, we pay this off, and so on , BUT...you must agree on everything, don't drag crap out and ruin whats left of your life. ( why pay for 2 lawyers?), one lawyer or a judge can do it too, ( Judge did it for me and cost $700 ) fast, painless and cost effective. If you two can end this as easy as you started it, you'll both be better for it. If you can put all the " na-na-boo-boo " stuff aside you can come out of this better Friends than you have been in a long time.
Just a suggestion..worked for me ...Good luck.
2006-11-13 10:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by twostories 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce
2006-11-13 10:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by andy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would try and do something different to spice up your marriage, if you are talking to each other about things, there is hope, make changes in your marriage, do not give up.
2006-11-13 16:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If we talked it all out and there was no hope - split up why be unhappy for the rest of your life when you can be happy
2006-11-13 10:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would go to counseling then if that does not work then give us some time to see if our love still there if we miss each other or is it that we are just use to being with each other!!
2006-11-13 10:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave!
The Germans have an appropriate saying, which translated roughly means, 'Better an end with horror, than horror without end'. ;-)
And you 2 seem to be in agreement.
2006-11-13 10:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well that sounds like a re-run of the day we decided to file for divorce.
2006-11-13 10:52:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋