how do i get through life when i don't love my husband?

Question

i don't love my husband but a divorce is not affordable. how am i going to get through this lonely life?

i am 100 percent financially independent, i get nothing from him. a divorce is going to cost me what i have worked for. he pays his half of our mutual bills, nothing else. i own a house of my own that i pay for and he is going to want. i am not willing to give up what i have worked for. he is selfish in bed and selfish socially. i feel used.

Answer 1

you can change your feelings.
go to the library and get the book "getting the love you want"
if you start doing those things
YOU CAN START TO LOVE YOUR HUSBAND
and be happy. i promise. it will work if you do it.
you can change how you feel by what you do with your life.
stop resisting loving him and stop thinking that you can't do anything about it. you can. love is not involuntary. you create love.
think about it. when you have a baby you don't even know the person. but you come to love it by taking care of it.
get the book "getting the love you want" and do that stuff.
it is worth it and it will work.

Answer 2

Divorces do not need to be expensive if both parties have decided that continuing on is not what is wanted. If you are saying "not affordable" meaning that you do not want to give up his financial support, then you appear to have decided that it is better to be a kept woman than an independent one.

Answer 3

Need more info. You're not telling us what you current situation is. Does he beat you, doesn't pay attention to you, is there any intimacy, does he go out with "the guys" too much, or what ? Or is the marriage just fizzling out ? All of these have different solutions. Some are workable and others is best that you separate. But we need some more details.

Answer 4

you could try a divorce mediator - they are much more reasonably priced - or if you own a house together, sell it & use the proceeds for a divorce - i did both of these things because i was in a horrible marriage - when there's a will, there's a way - if you really want out, you will find a way.

Answer 5

Move out on your own, just because you can't pay for the divorce doesn't mean that you have to stay with him. You just can't get married again untill you can pay for the divorce.

Answer 6

Build relationships with other people (male and female) who can meet your needs. You can stay married; but you should not expect your husband to be able to meet ALL of your needs. When he doesn't meet them all, you say "I don't love him and I want a divorce."

I think you do love your husband and you really don't want a divorce; but you want your needs met. Build some other relationships (not sexual) and allow others to fill the void where your husband isn't able to.

Answer 7

A i can tell you is to be stronge, do your normal day to day activity, make friends, chat with someone, this will help relieve all that pain. Ask you self what made you not love him any more, and see if you can correct it. If you're a house wife get a job this will free up your toughts..........good luck

Answer 8

First, quit feeling sorry for yourself. And if you are in the US, there is always legal aid to help you with a divorce.

Answer 9

What does affordable have to do with it? You can get a legal seperation. You can't go through life not loving your husband. It's not fair to either one of you......Don't you think?
You don't even have to get a legal seperation...just leave.
Give him the opportunity, and yourself, a chance at someone who will love him.....
Good luck! ! !

Answer 10

Try making it work. Go to counselling, increase the romance, etc. You might be surprised at how fast the love can come back.