I have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now. We have alot in common and we spend all our time together. At the beginning of the relationship, he was out of the state and so we wrote letters and talked on the phone. We really got to know each other through the letters and such. Now that he is back, we spend alot of time together. I even have a three year old son and he treats my child great. I've never been with someone who cared so much for me and my son. A few days ago, he asked me what I would say if he asked me to marry him. I care alot about this guy and I've never really felt this way about anyone. We have talked about the future alot and we both want the same things out of life. We love each other and want to spend forever together. Would it be ok if we got married now or should we wait? Also, I have met his family but he hasn't really met mine. My mom is in the military and so she is in Iraq right now. Should I get the approval of my mom first or do what I want?
2006-11-13 02:07:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Also, I am 23 and he is a little bit younger than me. He is 21. But he's very mature for his age.
2006-11-13 02:09:31 · update #1
Sorry for keep adding stuff. Also, I had just gotten out of a 2 and a half year relationship when I met my boyfriend. I wasn't really looking for a new boyfriend when I met him. I was kinda still mourning my past relationship. But he is so great and he cares more about me and my son in 5 short months than my ex ever did in 2 and a half years.
2006-11-13 02:12:53 · update #2
One thing I have learned in life about marriage is that there is no exact time or date to get married. It is different for everyone. If you are like my parents or the couple I tutor english with, they knew each other only 6 months before getting married. That is strong love. Sometimes, you just know that you and your partner will have a good relationship. Both of them are still together, my parents almost 30 years now.
Some other people, (probably like me) need a lot longer to figure things out. Some people want to take the time to live together first to see if they are compatable or to wait until they are both living in the same place or have jobs after college together. These can be 1-several years before getting married.
There is no right or wrong answer as to WHEN, but there is one for why. That answer is that you both love each other and you can't picture a day of your life in the future without that other person.
2006-11-13 02:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged when I turned 18 and married when I was 19 We were only together for 1 and a half years but we sorta knew that we loved each other and that we would be together for a long time, We have our ups and downs but we love each other immensly, more than I have loved anyone in my entire life! Words cannot describe. We lived together for almost a year before we got married. I got kicked out of my house and had no choice of where else to go, But i think that it is important to live together at least I felt it was so that way you know the person better and are more comfortable around them, Just make sure they are helping around the house and paying bills you dont want another person you have to support by yourself.
2006-11-13 10:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by aliemgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is even the slightest doubt from either side about loving the other.
That said, you are both 'grown ups' and can do what you want. Your asking this question, however would make me wonder how committed you really are.
I married my childhood sweetheart who I had known for 16 years, and she cheated and left after 4 years, my 3rd I married less than a month after meeting her in person, and it lasted for 14 years.
Go figure!
2006-11-13 10:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its too early if you are asking this question.
You are WAY too young, you arent over your last BF, and you havent been dating nearly long enough to know if you will last forever and ever and ever.
Definetly live together for at least a year before you get married, its the only way to know.
2006-11-13 10:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him. Have a wedding date for the spring as wedding plans take a lot of time.
2006-11-13 10:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by marlene g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having been married 4 TIMES..... I'd have to say... Wait!!
If I would have waited longer........ I would not be making that statement.
Point made?
2006-11-13 10:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by the23FireKeep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds everything is great. I don't see there is any problem for any reconsideration.
Get into it if you feel you are totally ready for this.
Get him to meet ur family first and get to know them as well.
Good Luck.
2006-11-13 10:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems really young. I would tread carefully.
2006-11-13 10:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋