My husband and i have been together three years and married a year and a half. He has never wanted to have children i found this out after we were married unfortunatley.He had a vasectomy done so it would never happen. I had no say but respected his wishes and hoped one day to convice him to get it reversed or to adopt since i was 22 and thought i had plenty of time to convince him and i loved my husband enough to go along with it. Something went wrong with the vasectomy and now i am 7 months pregnan ith his childt.At first he did not even believe it was his till a doctor confirmed it had (vas) reversed itself.I feel like i am in a living hell my husband hates me.He has become verbally abusive and wont talk to me.He changed the locks on our home and left my things outside with my dog.I dont have any family in houston my family is in NJ so i am living with one of his friends i cant work so i am cooking and cleaning for his friend Pat so i can stay there.What to do?
2006-11-13 02:04:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I still love my hubby but dont now how to get through to him.I feel streesed out and depressed and helpless.
2006-11-13 02:07:36 · update #1
Get yourself a lawyer now. Get rid of this selfish, abusive control freak before he ruins the rest of your life. If you can't afford an attorney go to legal aid. Seriously, you need to get as far away from this guy as you can.
Feeling bad because he mistreated you is normal. Staying in this relationship would be the worse thing you could possibly do.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-13 02:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go back to were you came from before you meet him. GO back to Jersey, your husband as much as you love him and wqant him in your life does not deserve either respect, love, or anything from you. You are a wonderful person and this should be the most wonderful time of your life...not the worst. You move back home, and make a new life there for yourself. He will never sherish you, or his child. He will never do you right, he will always do you wroung. You need to move on for your sake and the childs. Write down every bad thing this man has done to you, read it, cry over it....you'll see how you will start to heal. If you want him back because of the $$$ situation then get over it. Many women this because a man takes care of her financialy she has to putt up with all his $h!t and it should never be that way. Leave him and do yourself and your child that favore please.
2006-11-13 02:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable that you still care...he's your husband and you are carrying his child but he is sending you a clear message that you probably don't want to hear. Although it is terribly unfortunate, it is the way it is. I know it may not be the best time or even be possible but it may be good for you to move to NJ where your family is. You need all the help and support you can get and it doesn't look like that is going to happen if you stay where you are. Best of luck to you.
2006-11-13 02:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney (even through legal aid) so that you can get a legal separation. You want to document everything he has done to you! He should have to support you financially. Try to get the money to go back to NJ and be with your family.
I know it hurts, but get this guy out of your system. He loves only himself. He doesn't even deserve to know his child. What a loser. Don't let him bring you down. Wait until you see how happy you can be!
Good luck and God bless you and your innocent baby.
2006-11-13 02:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is not ready to accept you and your child,only you need the child.Give birth to you own baby and also find a good job for you and try to settle down with that.I accept your care and love for you husband more than that you have to face life...you can have DNA test for your child also if you want to prove him.So go forward with your and also try to see in practical....
2006-11-13 03:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by lini a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be offended, but I think, all he wanted is your body not your soul. Why live with a man who doesnt know how to deal with his responsibility as a husband.
2006-11-13 02:13:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congrats! look if he wants to be a son of a bitc* then let him, move back home with your family, file for child support. if he cant see what a miracle this is then it is his loss.
2006-11-13 02:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it needs to change
2006-11-13 02:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_happy_gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋