that i am having twins? He is two and i am 15 weeks pregnant and i want my son to know that he;s going to be a big brother. I have him and a 9 month old girl but when i was pregnant with my second child he was little.
2006-11-13 01:55:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am huge i have gained almost 8 punds. Seriously no joke i look like i have two basketballs in my stomach.
2006-11-13 02:01:16 · update #1
First, congratulations and good luck.
My son and my daughter have a really close relationship and I think it was primarily due to the fact that he was so involved throughout the pregnancy.
First, I told him that I had a special gift for him. Sooooo special that it would take nine months for it to get here!! Also I explained that since he is so good at finding things that I was hiding the gift in my belly. He was fascinated!!! Every night he would say goodnight to the gift growing inside of me.
Finally when my daughter was born, he was the third person after my husband and myself to hold her. He sat between my legs and I lowered her down to his arms.
He said she was the most beautiful gift he had ever gotten. At the age of 2 1/2 he said that she was a tough gift because she would hit him with toys. I said not everything that we want is always as we want it, but often worth it anyway. To this day he has always treated her with awe, no matter how difficult she would be. 15 years later, they are still the closest siblings I have ever seen with the exception of some twins.
Your son will be doubly blessed!!! Again congratulations!!
2006-11-13 02:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by just call me Doc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this is going to be very tough becuase of the closeness in age.. I worry about him and the 9 month old respecively here's why
Experts say you should wait til your first child is 2 years BEFORE even considering another pregnancy becuase 2-3 years is when a child is MOST needy of their mother... emotionally very needy... so when you have other kids to tend to they become resentful and will feel you love them less than the "baby"
twins will be especially demanding
he will be hurt every time to say "I cant do that with you now.. the babies need me"
or "you must be quite.. the babies are sleeping"
it will appear to him (and the other child) that your "babies" are always the priority and therefore the ones you love the most.
I am a testamony to this.. my mom had my sister when I was 18 months and pumped out 2 more after that.. I remember crying on the phone when she called from the hospital to say she had the fourth kid - its my earliest child hood memory.. and to this day I hate babies.. hate them hate them hate them
so what I am saying is "how you tell him" isnt important - its what you do after that matters the most..
I suggest getting your tubes tied as well
2006-11-13 10:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you are excited and want to share your excitement, but nine months is a very long time for a little one to wait with such anticipation. I advise you not to say anything until your belly is so big he asks you himself. The first thing he'll notice is when you don't have any more lap left for him to sit in! :-) That won't be so long from now, but it will reduce HIS waiting time to only four or five months. Once the topic comes up for discussion, you can go to the library and get children's books (fiction) on the subject of new babies. The stories and pictures in those books will help you talk with him (and enable him to ask all his questions) about how his life will be affected by his new siblings. Wow, you are really going to have your hands full! When I was pregnant with a second child, I kept talking to my first one about how she would be my "big girl." One day she was acting up in the grocery store (of all places). I just stopped and asked her, "What is wrong?!" She says to me, "I don't want to be a big girl!" So, I told her we would just have two babies. That was reassuring to her, that she was not being pushed out of the nest, and after that she returned back to her pleasant disposition and was always utterly sweet to the new baby. Ninteen years later, they are still best friends. Best wishes!
2006-11-13 10:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Alex S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that he will be a big brother to 2 new babies soon and that he is special because he gets to help out with them. Make it something that he should be excited about. Just say "Hey, guess what?! You are going to be a big brother to 2 news babies, and you know what that means don't you? You are very special because you have to help protect them and take care of them!" I believe he will feel less jealous if you involve him this way. He will probably be excited about the whole idea. Just remember to let him know how much you love him and treat him to something nice if he takes the news really well. Good luck!
2006-11-13 10:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rosalind55 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still little. Now, this is my personal opinion, but I think people make too big of a deal telling siblings about the new baby. Or in your case, babies. They don't have a choice. When the time gets close, just tell him that he is going to have two new siblings. End of story.
Kids today are too pampered. Back when (I'm 57) mom went to the hospital and brought home a baby. I was 7 when my sister was born, and I was excited about her, but I didn't have to be prepared or take any classes. We just had another kid in the house. And, yes, life was simpler and better.
What you should stress over is how you will take care of that many kids and still keep your sanity, not how to tell a two-year-old.
2006-11-13 10:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd wait a little bit longer to tell him. I would wait until you are about 6 months along, because if you tell the child too early it can seem like forever before the baby comes, but you do want to give him lots of warning so that he can get used to the idea.
I would just sit him down and tell him that "mommy is going to have another baby, but this time there is going to be 2 babies". There are lots of great books out there that can help too. Let him know that the babies are living in your tummy until it is time for them to be born. Answer his questions honestly, but don't give him too much info, answer his question is the minimum info and if he still has questions answer them as they come.
2006-11-13 10:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by yzerswoman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a few good books out there that you can read to your children about becoming big brothers and sisters. check out toys r us or the book store. They will also tell you how you can have your other children help so that they dont feel left out and stuff. They are really good but I cant think of what some names are.
2006-11-13 10:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him feel important about being a big brother. That way he won't be jealous of his upcoming siblings. Most kids feel jealous with the arrival of another child because they feel like there's an invasion of their space and territory. It happenned to my big brother when I arrived. He didn't like me. So my mother decided to feed my ego so I'd be ready for the arrival of my kid brother. And it worked.
2006-11-13 10:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think I would emphasize that he is going to be a BIG BROTHER. How important it is to help you with the new babies. Be sure to show him that you still love him and you always will.
2006-11-13 09:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you've got some great news.. tell him he has been picked to become a big brother........ make it all very positive and keep in involved in things though out the pregnancy
2006-11-13 10:00:13 · answer #10 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋