My best friend is engaged and 6 months pregnant and woke up this morning to a note from her now ex-fiance saying he is moving "somewhere up North" with some buddies and isn't ready to be a father. Don't they ever think about what their child looks like, whether they had a boy or girl, etc. Ladies has this ever happened to you? Men have/would you do this?
2006-11-13 01:24:40 · 14 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
This man doesn't love your friend otherwise this never would have happened. Trust me, he did her a favor. What type of father would a man like this be anyway. What he doesn't seem to understand, the deed has been done, he IS a father whether he likes it or not. She is going to need all your love and support right now, and especially after this child is born. Be there for her and help her through this trying period in her life. That child will grow to have such respect for his mother. I hope she gets through this fine.
2006-11-13 01:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by june clever 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's despicable to say the least,but that said when I see what the "modern" woman does to alot of men in this society anymore I cant say I completely blame them. He was probably afraid he would do the right thing,marry the woman and take care of his child,only to end up divorced three years from now and being bled so dry by the court that he's living like a bum no matter how hard he works. Happens everyday with women who claim to love some guy and then burn him to the ground as soon as the next,newest,better deal comes around,meanwhile he's left with nothing because God forbid she should also have to make sacrifices for the way things turned out,and the kid grows up without a father anyway.Then the kids get all the benefits of single parent homes like higher teen pregnancy,higher drug use,higher crime involvement,etc and the world is such a better place. I'm surprised we haven't had a generation of men who just all decide to get vasectomies at 18 and let the human race end with them.
2006-11-13 01:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that some men just can't take it n hopefully he just needs time to get his head together.Honestly though that sucks when a man doesn't mind taking you for you but when responsibility comes along they run.If he doesn't come back soon he will one day n if not the child will most likely want to find and hopefully will be little him for being such a coward and abandoning you 2.Don't worry what goes around always comes around.
2006-11-13 01:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by too4barbie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex didnt leave when I was pregnant he left when our oldest was 4 and youngest 2. He doesnt have anything to do with his children and I really honestly do not know how they can do it. I think that it is best for the children if the father is not going to be in their lives to leave when they are little enough to forget them. My son remembers his father and we are having all kinds of problems with school and just life in general. His counselors say that it is caused by the abandonment from his father. My daughter does not remember him so we do not have the problems from her like we do my son. They are 9 & 7 now and I think that if a man is going to be a dead beat dad then they need to stay away from the child from day one because it is so traumatising to the children if they know who he is and then he walks out.
2006-11-13 01:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
easily not. previous habit is the appropriate predictor of destiny habit and that they could do a similar situation to the toddler later. except they simply go away because of the fact the female is performing loopy... as an occasion, my brother's ex has psychological wellbeing themes and truthfully tried to have him overwhelmed up at a similar time as she grew to become into pregnant so he stayed away till the toddler grew to become into born. His daughter is 4 now and he truthfully has finished custody. he's between the appropriate fathers i comprehend. yet whilst the guy is in basic terms a deadbeat, unsupportive jerk then no, he should not be allowed visitation except he can coach that he's mature and committed to being in touch in the toddler's existence continuously. tremendously not likely coming from somebody who deserted his pregnant spouse/lady buddy.
2016-10-22 00:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is am immature and cowardly thing to do. I would track him down and have a laywer make him pay for alot of the medical, child support and alimony.
He is a loser. He may think he is running away from his problems. Hw convienent since a women is not able to run away from something like that. If he thinks it is hard to think about having a family wait till he finds out about support payments.
Also my dad would probably hunt him down and take him out in a back ally and do damage control.
2006-11-13 01:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is afraid to became a father. He may not take care of his child. He is abandoning baby because of his fear or another person in his life. He may be seeing someone else.
2006-11-13 01:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by dtred08 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure would help if these ladies would wise up and at least get a marriage license. Makes the suing for support easier, and if the man doesn't want to marry, then he certainly isn't ready to have children.
I think also that women often are the ones who really WANT to have a child, and ignore the warning signs of the man. I'll get blasted and death threats again, I suppose; oh well, it's been a week since the last one.....
2006-11-13 01:31:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋
I had it happen to me twice.....she needs to get over it. go on with her life and don't make it a huge negetive issue with her child.Forget the support and custody battles.(your child will respect you for it. if they see you as being as strong as possible under the circumstances and not being someone who plays vindictive games)I would rather see him do that than do something that he does not want to be doing. When it comes to an unwanted pregnancy women have an option(whether they believe in it or not,)men do not have that choice.
My kids are now 14 and 18 and the youngest(he left me 6 months pregnant) she has never seen the 'other half of her genes' only has asked a few questions and I have answered them as neutrally and honestly as I could. The oldest. His father sort of came back into his life when he was 11. I knew a jail guard and his father had gotten arrested for manslaughter(many of yu will say whoa right there, but I don't believe that is a judgement that I have the right to make(I f&*ked him in the first place)7 years later he is still sitting in jail and does have a bit of a relationship with his son.(I don't ask for nothing in return). This has wound up being a good thing for my son as my son is diabetic and so is his father. His father has been on kidney dialysis sinvce he was 28 because he didn't take care of his diabetes when he was a teen. Unfortunately my son was 17 before he decided that he needed to keep it under control but what I am saying is my son has someone there with whom he can have some understanding about what he is going through.
Tell her to let the guy go and just get on with her life. If he enters back in later to see the child so be it.
Angel of Death up there has hit it on the mark too!!!!!!! What choice is a man left. NONE
2006-11-13 01:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by kardea 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋
I wish people would stop doing the whole runner thing I would never do it because I have 4 sisters and if anyone did that to them I would hunt them to the end of this earth
2006-11-13 01:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by whay i lost my ?s 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋