with what i look like because i know that i am not a ugly good because i get compliments all the time on how pretty and beauitful person and plus when people talk to me they say im the person that you can just talk to them about anything and they might only know me for three or two months. What 's a girl to do?
2006-11-13 01:07:09 · 4 answers · asked by jazzyjqween 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
No matter how confident a person is, there is always a situation when one feels less confident. Confidence is such that it comes in levels in different situations. From the little that you said, I am assuming that you are too self-aware, constantly measuring yourself and worried that you may not be at your best. Just know, as you may already be aware, that all of us are more or less in the same boat. When you view other people and you see someone who is not confident, do you not say to yourself that it is a shame that they don't feel better about themselves. After all, the world is such that there always will be someone smarter than you and less smart, someone prettier than you and someone less so, someone stronger than you and someone less strong, etc. So, wouldn't you say that you are doing yourself an injustice not to think that you are worthy of holding your head up high? When I was younger, I also suffered from a lack of confidence. Looking back, I guess I felt I was not measuring up to the expectations I had of myself, maybe I expected too much of myself; I had some idea of perfection in mind which could never be reached. Once I changed my standard, that is to say, I started measuring myself by the way I did things, the relationships I had, I started to gain confidence in my abilities and myself. Confidence is not just about how you look...but in that department, if you do the best you can to present yourself well, that is as much as you can do.
2006-11-13 01:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lucid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, an average person is composed of 50% confidence and 50% insecurity.
It's just a matter of balancing things up. Don't get the latter get into you.
When you have an impulse to think some negative things about yourself. Stop. It is self-defeating behavior. It could lower your self-esteem and thus heightens your feeling of insecurity.
Try to be a proactive thinker. Instead of saying "you can't, " say "it's quite hard ut I know I can do something about it."
Start being a proactive thinker now and say positive things about yourself and think positive.
In this way, you could not only improve your self-confidence, it could also improve your relationship with your friends and family.
Who won't like someone who is beautiful and confident, right?
Good luck. Hope this helps.
2006-11-13 09:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to change something up... is there something about yourself you just dont feel good about? If not, still getting a hair cut or making some sort of change in your life can really help. Or, while there are people around you that say things like that, are there also negative people? People you are used to saying bad things or critizing you as well? If so, drop them quick.
2006-11-13 09:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people feel like they are the ugliest people in the world. it's a normal thing. not everyone naturally has confidence in themselves. to find yours, it takes a lot of courage and it takes waking up, looking in the mirror and saying "I AM HOT STUFF!!" sometimes it's good top be full of yourself! trust me, i was on mtv's made and it took me forever to gain confidence! good luck! =)
2006-11-13 10:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lillie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋