Are my in-laws Jealous of me?

Question

Everytime things are going good with me and my husband the next day it turns out sour, my mom and sister inlaw alway rush me to do stuff for my husband, eg, giving him food, picking up the wash. Then the other day he lead me his car, to used for the week till i get back mines, his mom was pisst off, cause i'm using it.....
I try my best to be a good, loving, hard working wife. But to my inlaws it is not good, the want me to stay home and do nothing.....then my husband listen to his mom.....how can i brake that ...?

Answer 1

your husband is the one that needs to put his foot down! tell him what is going on..and that you would NEVER put up with this kind of behavior if it were your own mother/sister.
you married him, not his mother...yes she is part of your family but she doesn't and shouldn't have a say in YOUR life together.
honestly i would look to move away! * that's what i encouraged my husband to do when we got married. we moved my mother in law to Hawaii! *
if your hubby won't put his foot down then your going to be the one to say something. it may be hard, but YOUR HIS WIFE! that car you borrowed is YOURS as much as it is your husbands...you need to stand up for yourself.
be firm but cordial, and tell her that you understand that she loves her son very very much, but so do you. and you are his wife.
he is a grown man, and you two want her to be part of your life, but you don't want her controlling it. tell her that you feel like she doesn't like you, and that your trying your best to be a good wife to her son. but you will NOT let her make you feel guilty about the decisions that you make together as a couple. ask her how she would feel if HER mother in law butted in the way she did?

perhaps talking w/your father in law might help? or a brother in law?

Answer 2

Your inlaws seem too involved with your everyday life. Your husband must be overly connected to them and needs to let go a bit. Until he can do this, they will always be in the big picture.

Answer 3

First of all if your married then its both your cars anyways so she needs to wake up!!!
Next you husband needs to sit them down and tell them he loves you just the way you are they need to back off. They cannot be giving that much power over your relationship. Tell them you appreciate the advise but your doing just great so no thanks. If that doesnt work then stay away from them for a while and see how that works.

Answer 4

let your husband know you are happy in the marriage,,that you like to do things for him but this pressure is making you miserable and you have no doubt this will effect how the marriage works down the line,,if you and your husband have planned how something is going to be,,reason with him that you and he are doing what is right for you to make for a good life,,a happy and contented life where you feel the two of you can openly discuss things without the need to seek guidance from others and that makes you feel this relationship is special,,,the majority of men prefer a happy and loving wife as apposed to one who feels threatened and sad in the company of friends and family

Answer 5

First thing you need to remember is you're not married to your in-laws. You don't owe them anything...not even an explanation.

Second this is your husbands family and if he loves you and wants his marriage to work he will set up limits and boundaries for his family.

Your marriage comes before anybody.

Answer 6

talk to your husband about what you feel...or move to another city....far from your inlaws...

Answer 7

when you will be a mother in law , you will understand it. till then bear it my lady.
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Answer 8

try moving out of their house.

Answer 9

Move far away.

Answer 10

talk to them