Why do I verbally abuse my husband?

Answer 1

only YOU know the answer to that! but you need to knock it off. your disrespecting someone that your suppose to love. what would you do if he did that to you?

Answer 2

Did your mother verbally abuse your father? Its kind of like a vicious cycle. IT needs to be broken. I am not saying that is your case, but it could be. Or maybe you have been abused in the past and though not meaning it you are taking it out on your husband. Regardless, it is not healthy, you should really talk to someone about it. Your husband does not deserve it. Nobody does. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Maybe its what you saw between your mother and father when you were growing up. Or, it could be your way of controlling him.

Look into yourself and if you feel that this behavior is wrong, try to change yourself slowly - one step at a time.

Verbal abuse should not be a part of any healthy relationship. Your husband's feelings should be important to you and if he is getting hurt, you should take steps to change quickly.

Answer 4

It could be that you are not happy about yourself and you take it out on your husband. Perhaps it is just a way of getting his attention. You know the old saying , you always take things out on the ones you love or that are the closest to you. I don't know why l guess you just feel more comfortable with the ones you love. Please try and stop though or you may not have a husband to abuse. Best of luck with your anger management.

Answer 5

Depends on what you mean by verbally abusing him. I would get to the heart of the matter and get counselling for myself. As for your husband if he feels he is in danger then he should get our of harms way or leave you.

Answer 6

I was the same. I was very bad about it and when I look back at it now I truly was crazy. I am amazed that he stayed with me.

We did not live in the same city as my parents, but after almost 25 years we moved there. One day I went with my mother to go and visit my sister. She stopped at the store and asked me to go in to get some soda that was on sale. I asked a clerk as we were in a hurry and he pointed to a stack of 16 ounce bottles. I bought them and came out to the car.

As soon as I opened the car door my mother actually started to scream at me that she didn't want the bottles but the cans. As I stood there in shock, I realized that the screaming shrew in front of me was me screaming at my husband all those years.

Instead of being grateful I had went into the store for her, she screamed like a demented harpie at me. I knew then I would never ever scream at my husband like that again.

And I haven't...

Answer 7

It's a deep rooted power issue. Deep inside you feel that he is inferior, and you verbally let him know that you are better. On the opposite side of the power issue, you yourself feel inferior and you verbally attack him to lower him to level that you can feel equal about. Either way; it is an internal power struggle.

Answer 8

U have not explain how your husband made u verbally abuse on your husband. let me tell u just stop now. I mean it. STOP. Grow up. U are married. U supposed to be mature as a adult. Who wants to continue verbally abuse on your relationship for rest of life? NO ONE. Leave verbally abuse to High School kids. Listen your lover asked u to be his wife and u say "YES". Your husband ASKED u to be his WIFE, that s great. Married is GOLD. Husband and Wife are gold. Both of u and your husband got married in beautiful wedding. Im assure u have wedding photos of you and your husband. Dont throw away "married " for nothing like piece of paper in garbage. It will bring u and your husband terrible pain.

I love my wife so much. We do argue sometimes. That s normal but we promised not to use any of verbally abuse in 10 years ago. Because we felt that its immature. We wanted to grow up, focus on our married and forget every probelms.
Problem will ALWAYS show up like everdays so we have to live with it. If problem show up, wife/husband says dicuss that for later then u hold it for later till he/she feels ready to dicuss with u.
Everythings will smooth.

I found greatly to improve our relationship is go on vacation just two of us. We go out all the times for just two of us. Just go to Starbuck, Border, beach, camping, fishing, etc. Use your beyond wild images with your relationship. No friends. No phone. Nothing, just us, Husband and Wife only. That work out good.
I m suggest u get marriage counselor.

ps. to men.. GO HOME, TAKE OF OF YOUR FAMILY AND BE A MAN.

Answer 9

usually people verbally abuse their spouse as its a form of domination. you really should seek some counselling before it destroys your marriage. its good that you admit your doing it because many dont. good luck.

Answer 10

You feel hatred maybe about something he did to you or someone else did to you and you're carrying the baggage into your current relationship. Bad idea. Get over whatever is making you angry and quit taking it out on your man or he'll get sick of it and walk.

Answer 11

You may feel poorly about yourself and project on your husband.