i have 2 children,and had a miscarriage in october..baby would have been born in may.
my husband is reluctant to try again as he wants a spring baby-conception next summer then.......
my concern is that i am losing fertility every year,and nothing is guaranteed;that i will conceive next august for a may baby again for example.
i want to keep trying as i dont think i have time to lose but we have 2 autumn-born children and if i were to conceive today for instance we would have 3 babies with close-timed birthdays-i think "so what"
would you postpone things for convenience?knowing that you may not conceive?
2006-11-13 00:37:58 · 16 answers · asked by tigerfoot 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Even though you feel ready to have a baby, one thing to consider is that your body might not. October was very recent. Your body had spent the last two months preparing you to have a baby - many changes took place - it might not be safe for you to try yet. Have you consulted with your Dr? When I miscarried at 3 months, my Dr. told us to wait at least 2-3 months before making the attempt to conceive again because our chances would be better. Your body might not be able to handle it yet - if you conceived right away it could result in another heartbreak. Only you and your husband can decide what is right for you, and you sound like you are ready...but I would consult with the Dr. As far as the birthdays, I agree with you...so what? There's never any "good" time...or should I say there's no time like the present? I wouldn't try to time things to fit into a "schedule", since that rarely works anyway.
Best of luck!
2006-11-13 00:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by tallgirltexas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely it doesn't matter whether you have a spring, summer, autumn or winter baby. A baby is a gift from God regardless of when. Women can be fertile until well into their forties. Others go through the menopause as early as twenties. If I were you, I'd go for it now. Otherwise, why not consider adopting? You already have two lovely children of your own. Instead of worrying about seasons, why not spend time thinking of those who do not have a family? Good luck.
2006-11-13 00:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are my age what are you waiting for
it is nice for you to put your husband feeling for an Autumn baby
but I tough that it was God who give
have you ask the doc why you misc,guess what it is partly to do with your age because once you turn 30+ you are at risk
if you should get preg again you will need to rest, stay off your feet as much as possible
Personally I have 2 misc 1 year apart but I have not stop trying
I am at the moment preg and every week is a triumph
so if you truly want a baby talk to your husband
don't wait too long
2006-11-13 01:24:41 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't wait!! Although I had a baby at the age of 38 with no trouble many of my friends had a great deal of difficulty conceiving by the time they were 35 -- some had to resort to fertility treatments. So strike while the iron is hot.
2006-11-13 00:42:20 · answer #4 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When it happens it happens. At your age I think that you should just continue to try..and hope for the best. I think that the stress of tying for a perfect birthday could also hinder your efforts...and what happens if you DONT get pregnant next august...what does your hubby want to do then? SO, personally I wouldnt postpone, but this is something that you and your hubby need to agree on. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 00:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there firstly i'm very sorry to hear you had a miscarriage.I think your husbands reasons for not wanting you to have another baby because of the time of year must frustrate you it wouldn't bother me.also i don't think you can plan these things theres no saying you would fall pregnant straight away anyway.I don't think your age will affect you but i understand your concerns and i wouldn't want to wait either.why don't you both just have the attitude you will just wait and see what happens and whenever you fall pregnant regardless of the time of year you will both be over the moon.If you do leave it and have trouble you may always blame your husband.I'd go for it now why wait! good luck xx
2006-11-13 00:46:26 · answer #6 · answered by louonline78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start charting my cycle now and try conceiving since you never know how long that will take. If it happens right away excellent if not then hopefully by the time you had in mind to begin trying. The best of luck to you both.
2006-11-13 00:45:13 · answer #7 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say try now, you don't know how long it will take to conceive anyway. Plus once the baby is born there's no way you will care whether it was a spring baby or not, its a baby and their precious x
2006-11-13 00:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Babything 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You may want to seek the help of a RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist). He/she will be able to give you the most educated answer on whether or not you should wait. As you already know, as you get older not only does your egg production decrease, but the quality of "good eggs" decreases. Good luck!
2006-11-13 02:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only time I would not want to have a baby is around Christmas. My birthday is 15th January, and I hate it.
Given your age I would just keep actively trying, and just see what happens. Que sara sara as they say.
Use this to help you http://www.babycentre.co.uk/tools/ovu/
Good Luck.
2006-11-13 06:05:20 · answer #10 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋