I am 24 years old and have recently been involved in a relationship with a divorced older woman with 3 kids with bipolar for 1 year. Both sexual and friends. Before this relationship I was a strong, independent person who could take care of oneself. Now the relationship has ended due to the fact I told her I really liked her I was left a wreck and totally dependant on her and I was a person I didn't like. After 2 months I feel better about the situation but I am coming up with constant unanswered questions. Do I have codependency issues? Am i desperate? Am i unhappy in my life?
Does anyone have any experiences of being in a relationship with a bipolar person and falling for them hook, line and sinker?
2006-11-13 00:18:56 · 4 answers · asked by bill t 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you are in trouble.
2006-11-13 00:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a bipolar person who has been married for a very long time. My husband is very supportive and loving and I am the same in return. That's not to say that my illness hasn't caused issues, I work and I work with people who have no idea about my illness, its exhausting covering up my illness but an experience with workplace bullying means i don't feel I can trust many people with the truth...anyway relationships are doomed for a variety of reasons and its not necessarily her bipolar or you being codependent, unhappy or desperate. Don't be so hard on yourself it just wasn't meant to be and when you are ready there will be someone for such a caring person as yourself and you will find what you are looking for in a relationship, remember she is a person not an illness but that illness may affect her in ways you'll (or even she) will understand. Good Luck!
2006-11-13 08:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit confused. Shouldn't she have been the one who became dependant?
I don't think the bipolar part has much to do with it, except that you had to deal with stuff you weren't prepared for.
I think you may have jumped into an instant family and found out it's not what you may have expected, or the pressure was too great for you to handle. Understandable.
I can't answer the rest, I have no clue how happy or unhappy you are. You say after two months you feel better but have questions. I think you're lonely and need to come to grips with that. Should you go back with this woman, likely not.
2006-11-13 08:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what your feeling right now is just normal, I had experienced that kind of relationship. What I know, we are bound to experience challenges in life, the mystery of it , each of us has an individual way to expect. You'll find yours soon, just hold on to your strength, sooner or later you'll be back on your feet.
Good luck.
2006-11-13 17:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by linda c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋