you are getting boring to your spouse cause you are dealing with so many day to day issues with kids ,work,& insecurities in your marriage? The thing is I'm not a drinker & I'm not close with his family & I'm always staying busy running my household. I grew up fast & have no clue how to have fun. I want to be able to be care free & enjoy my life but feel as if I'm loosing my grip on what might be reality in my marriage ,etc.
2006-11-13 00:09:57 · 9 answers · asked by "karma" 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes,I do work I'm a car sales woman!Beleive it or not I'm a people person on top of that.
2006-11-13 00:21:25 · update #1
Congrats on not being a drinker. You don't have to drink to have a good time. Just because his family drinks doesn't mean you have to. You can have fun without drinking. If they make you feel bad because you don't drink to have fun then I wouldn't put myself in that situation. Sounds like your doing what your suppose to do. Taking care of your family and home. Just make sure you take a night once in a while to be with just your husband. Hire a babysitter and go out to dinner, maybe a movie. If he likes to drink maybe go to a comedy club and you can be the driver on the way home. Just make sure you have time for the both of you and make sure you have time for just you once in a while. That's needed just as much as the time together. Good Luck
2006-11-13 01:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you work out side of the home or not, but that did the trick for me. I had a boring career that I really couldn't change, but I got a part time job with an NFL team. It totally changed my life. The job itself was really exciting and I then had exciting stories to tell and could sometimes get tickets to away games that my husband and I could enjoy together without the kids. The team also put on family events that the kids just loved.
Look around...I am sure there is something similar that you can get involved in that would make things more interesting than the day-to-day.
2006-11-13 00:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by Zana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you need to discuss how you are feeling with your spouse.They might not have any idea anything is amiss in the house.We all seem to get so tied up in the day to day we forget what brought us together in the first place.Try sitting down and thinking about the reason you were attracted to each other.What are some of the things you used to do before you had kids.Plan a date night at least once a month where it's just the two of you with no distraction.sounds like you need to also take at least one day a month and spend on just you.
2006-11-13 00:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by renchick13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a time off! put the kids in childcare or arrange a friend or family to mind the kids and have fun. You need to feel the world, marriage is not the end it is something to enjoy if you know how to juggle life.
2006-11-13 00:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need some together time. Perhaps he needs to help you with all of the daily business? And find some common interests with him where you are having fun together. He needs to give, too.
2006-11-13 00:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Vince 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
considering your poblem also i always thimk ' what is life? why we go on living? most part of our life is wasted in doing trifle tjhings.to have a husband kids is great. but quality of life becomes poorer. i am facing ,the same thing ,as a husband and am least satisfied with my life. if you wish to converse ' youngindia.nation@yahoo.com
2006-11-13 00:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need a week long getaway........some you two time together to talk and hang out and get to know whats been going on with each other. to spend time and share you love with one another
2006-11-13 00:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by .......... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take time for eachother without all the other distractions
2006-11-13 00:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what most women do.sleep with other people when hubbies not home.
2006-11-13 00:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by BUSHIDO 7 · 0⤊ 5⤋