At the moment I am firmly on the side that 'Never to have loved at all' is far better. Do you think it's a matter of personal experience or do you think that brief happiness is worth the pain when it doesn't work out?
2006-11-13 00:07:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think this statement is 100%true,
cuz if the love gives pain,
then also loving and get loved , is the best thing in the world,
if u dont get pain u cant imagine the value of happiness
thanks
2006-11-13 00:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with a lot of peoples view points here... Its a PERSONAL choice...
I feel really bad that u are in a position where u had to ask this question... if u've been into this postion where u've loved someone and lost them... (i hope u arent)
according to me though... its better never to have loved at all... Its easier to deal with something if one doesnt know what the other end it...
personally speaking, I think Love is torture... You show gardens of roses to leave them wreathing in a desert... You give one sip of water to a dying person after showing them a ocean... You show one moment of passion to someone who you want o humiliate for the rest of their bloody miserable life... and anyone who agrees that that ONE moment is worth is... seriously need to have a reality check ! I dont think its ok to tell a person that has been in a horrible accident that his body will never work... but his mind would ! He would just stay in bed all day w/o saying anything but feeling lonely and miserable and forced to live life that would never satisfy them (I know that people would disagree, but this is a personal opinion and does not mean I am against disability... I just think its more humane to let people decide on their circumstances themselves and not let other peoples emotions to force them to do anything)
I know I have an extremely negative view on love... but its through personal experiences...
I hope people never experience this curse... but have a wonderful life with someone who cares for them, has lots of affection and respect, and is humane towards them
Passion is always good too ;)
2006-11-14 06:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by l p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly for me I have to say it is better to love. Love helps make us better people. Each relationship gives us life lessons that you can't learn any other way than by being in them and experiencing it. If your heart is broken, then that means you really loved that person. When a relationship ends, people seem to think about all the negative things that happened in the relationship, but I am sure there was several positive things that happened otherwise why would you be with that person.
2006-11-13 10:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by blushingivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone said that to me it`d make me feel worse lol i think it`s a bit of a cop out saying. it makes u feel like someone is saying that ur never going to find love ever again which will make u feel inadequate and that there is something wrong wiv u. ok do i think that brief happiness is worth the pain wen it doesn`t work out? not really. i`ve been on my own for quite a long time now and if someone walked into my life and made me blissfully happy then it all went wrong, i`d feel cheated out of happiness. i`d wish i`d never bothered in the first place.
2006-11-14 09:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is not really about love, but more about the fork in the road, that we met up with every day about every thing we do. It's like the path not taken because it is less traveled and more scary, but if you never try anything new, you will never live. pain will come no matter what you do, so go live and take the road less traveled and love. Good luck & take care
2006-11-13 08:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by truckinglove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about the people who didn't choose to loose? My friend Tawyna died 4 years ago in Jan, and her b'friend is still in bits as is her twin sister - you try telling them its better to have loved and lost than never to of loved at all.....see what he says. Everyone still loves her to bits -but we would give up everything to have her back.
So in some ways its a true statement because my life would of been different if I hadn't known Tawyna, so we lost her - but we still love her, so I would go through the pain of loosing her all over again - just to have one more day.
2006-11-13 08:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is better to have loved and lost.
Life is all about experience. Love comes in a whole load of different ways, but I guess you are talking about the heart stopping, body rocking, earth shattering, souls merging, first love of your life thing. And by the way....Ouch, I know it hurts!!!
When you are ready to move on, you need to look at it as in, it was lovely, it happened, it ended for a reason, accept it and move on. If you don't you will forever be in limbo and will be forever comparing everyone to that one.
2006-11-13 08:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do get over a broken heart and are left with (hopefully) some nice memories.
But I do agree with you, when you are broken hearted it doesnt seem worth the pain at the time!
Then you're left with 'Time is a great healer' ... Thats a crock of sh*t too!
2006-11-13 08:12:19 · answer #8 · answered by Ah! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in love with a girl and she said she loved me. After 3 years she dumped me. This was many years ago and I still think of her every day and count myself lucky that I loved, was loved and lost love. If she came to me even now I would stay with her for ever.
2006-11-13 08:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a matter of personal opinion, because losing still hurts, when the girl of your dreams goes off with someone else, who turns out to be a major league creep.
2006-11-13 08:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋