I have a friend called jane, me and her have been best friends for about 5 years now, we are both 19. Im starting to get really sick of her though and I know its really horrible of me, but we are just sorta past our friendship. She takes me completely for granted and I just dont like the side that only I get to see to her because to everyone else shes all sweet and nice. All she does is moan and moan, about everything, right now Im very sick and have had to take a week of work but of course "she has been far sicker in the past and didnt have to take it off". She just constantly puts me down, and she is the most selfish girl in the world, especially when it comes to nights out, presents etc. Her bf makes up stuff e.g. i came on to him and she believes him and hates me for it. It just upsets me so much that she can be sucha b itch now, and I dont think I can face her anymore....
What should I do?
2006-11-13 00:07:38 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ask her why she is like that, try to be friends with her, if that don't work don't bother! Don't worry be happy (>_<)
2006-11-13 00:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Atis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her all this and see how she feels about it. Sometimes people should be assisted in "opening their eyes":) It works you'd see I had numerous such conversations with my frriends who are girls. It is realy amusing how surprised they are when they hear you talking to them about such issues and if you use the right tone: calm and reasonable, especially understanding (after all thry have their problems as well), that they almost always put the blame on theirselves, they appologize and try harder in the future.
The thing about the bordom and the fed- part is more difficult though. In this case it would be better to distance yourself for a while. You know, there is nothing more fascinating than redescovering one's friendship. When you haven't seen each other for a while, the eventual meeting is much more exciting and longed for.
After all one can really appreciate what he has only when he loses it. My point is not to break up your relationship, but just give it some time and let her realize how alwful it is to miss you and not have you beside her all the time.
Good luck!
2006-11-13 08:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by venitoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say this friendship is over. she obviously doesn't care about you or respect you. No b/f or g/f should EVER come between you and a mate. If I was seeing a girl who then said "I don't want you hanging around with your mates" (I have some very close female mates, so this may well be the cause of this theoretical issue) I would not stop. If she was not willing to give this notion up I would have to split up with her.
Your "mate" doesn't care about you anymore. You deserve a good mate. One who loves and respects you. Jane isn't worth it anymore.
Sorry to be the one to tell you this. I hate giving bad news to good people.
2006-11-13 08:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by genghis41f 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there...I think you have outgrown this childhood relationship and its time for you to spread your wings and move on and up in the world, make and keep new friends and do interesting things together, girly things and have fun, make your life too busy with others by not having time to spend with your current ' friend ', if she phones to ask you to go out etc tell her youre too busy or youre doing something else that she is not invited too, might make her sit up and take notice, to me she sounds very immature, unlike you, who is more prepared to keep quiet about your friendship, that way you are not offending her, but why should you, give her a bit of a wide berth for now, get out there and meet other nice friends....good luck !
2006-11-13 08:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship. If you feel to guilty then write her a long letter and send it to her. (make a few copies so u give it to her again incase "she didnt get it"). If she tryies to win you back read the letter yourself and you will see why u wanted to leave. If you have to move house, but thats an extreme. Just dont answer her call, dont talk to her and most importantly DONT let her make u feel guily for ANYTHING.
Good Luck
2006-11-13 08:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by jst4di 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one, love. You say you're sort of past your friendship, she's mean to you in private, and her boyfriend has made up lies about you ... I think that you should lose this girl and her horrible boyfriend. Walk away, change your phone number, block her calls, whatever.
Don't waste time on so-called 'friends' who have to make your life miserable in order to make themselves feel better.
2006-11-13 08:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her all of this and explain you are not happy this gives her the chance to change or not, and if she dosent then go and make some new friends. It happens to everyone at some time that you lose touch or just grow away from friends, its sad but you just got to make some new ones, and hopefully they will treat you much better.
2006-11-13 10:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by I~Love~Baileys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking to her ! the girl needs to appreciate you or she cant be your friend !
avoid her phone calls
if she calls you, are busy / just going out / busy with another friend / off to Mars - whatever you can think of !
if she questions you, just say you have been very busy lately and maybe want to take it easy or make some excuse like you want to 'concentrate' on studies or wahtever else and she may get the hint....
2006-11-13 09:21:53 · answer #8 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely disown her and not talk to her. If she appraoches you, tell her whats up and if she wants to work things out, great. If not, well find som1 else. She sounds like a moody b itch. I hate those type of friends.
2006-11-13 10:40:43 · answer #9 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the friendship has run it's course. She's not respecting you-so why subject yourself to that? Be civil,but cool and distant. If she doesn't get the hint,tell her that you've found her comments and actions hurtful,and you won't accept being disrespected by her.
2006-11-13 08:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go and if you have been friends with her longer
than the boyfriend and she is taking his side and she is
mad at you then what is the use of being around her and
shes mad at you on account of what her boyfriend said
you should be around her then because people take serious
you messing with their mate even if it is true or not she might
do something drastic to you while grinning in your face let
her be gone
2006-11-16 21:07:06 · answer #11 · answered by cheyanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋