age gap between kids?

Question

I have a 7 and half month old baby and am thinking about trying again meaning an 18 month gap do you think thats a good age gap?

my hubby says we'll get a cleaner so i think that should help cause all i have to worry about is the babies washing dinner and changing beds!

Answer 1

Hi,

I have a 6 month old and am thinking of doing the same thing. I found an answer on Y!A that totally validated my reasons for wanting to have my kids so close together. I found this answer by doing a questions search of "2 under 2." Here's the cut and paste of the answer, the answerer's name is Ploobis:

"Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

I was petrified when I found out I was having another baby. Our daughter was only 9 months old then, but I was actually already 3 months prego. You know what. It is not easy. there are days when I want to tear all the hair out of my head crawl in the closet and hide. But I would do it the same way all over again. I never had the chance to get MY life back. I was still living in a state of chaos when our son came along. So, to have to go through night feedings and sleepless nights was easier than with our first. I have a great little girl who loves her brother and has no jealousy issues because she was too young to really have any. We took her to every Dr. appt and never said No don't go near the baby. She is involved in everything he does. my house is always a mess, I have to do at least 1 load of laundry everyday, I have to take showers with one or the other if I want to have one at all, and I love it and would never change a thing. Infact if I was to do it all over again I would have gotten pregnant with number 2 sooner. My advice to you is to involve #1 with everything to do with #2. and remember #1 needs you more than #2 for the first little while. A newborn eats sleeps and poops. A toddler needs to play sing dance and interact. Good luck and Congratulations!!!! "

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

I think any where from 18 months to 3 years is a good age gap.I have 3 step sons who live with their dad and me and their ages are: 6 will be 7 in June,4 will be 5 in April,2 will be 3 tomorrow and we have an 11 month old daughter and I am having a boy due in Feb. so he 2 younger ones will be about 13 and a half onths apart.

Answer 3

My first 2 children are 2 years, 2 weeks apart. This was a really good age difference because when I had a new born the 2 y/o was gaining independence and could do certain tasks alone. Plus they are both girls so now at 11 & 9 they are VERY close (although we spent alot of years buying 2 of everthing because they didnt want to share). 18 months sounds a little early to ME but thats just becasue 18 months is still a baby. BUT if you feel ready the final choice is yours.

Answer 4

For me it wouldn't be! I have an 8 year old daughter and a 17 month old son. That to me is the perfect gap! I think if you could cope with having two toddlers at the same time then go for it, they will be very close to each other, best friends when it's raining and they are bored stuck in the house. Perfect playmates.

Answer 5

My boys are exactly 18 months apart to the day (they are two years old and six months old now). They are fun, although at first it was hard because the older one isn't able to do too much for himself and wanted to "help" alot. Jealousy is still an issue, it's hard for me to be feeding the little one without the big one trying to get in the middle (he only does this to me, not my hubby or my mom). In any case, they really are close, and I think that having a big brother to watch is getting my little one to develop faster (he's trying to crawl already!)

Anyways, good luck!

Answer 6

I'm bucking the trend here and saying you should wait a little longer. So much will depend on the personality of your first child especially. Will he/she be jealous of the new baby? Will he/she feel resentment because you have to turn your attention away to care for another child? When kids get a little older, there's a better chance they'll handle the introduction of a new baby brother or sister as something to be joyful about...and not fear abandonment or rejection. It's your life, and you should do what you and your partner feel is right for you. But there's no harm in waiting, grounding your first child in your love, before having another one.

Answer 7

It's really nice having a small age gap. My brother is 13 months older than me and we were almost always at the same school, we shared friends, he stopped people from picking on me, and we always had a lot in common! He was so young when i was born there were never issues with him being jealous sharing attention, and he wasn't so much older he expected more privledges, so conflicts were quite minimal.

Answer 8

there is 18 months between me and my brother, and we are really close now and when we was growing. My children have a 2 1/2 year gap, which is still ok as they seem to be close aswell.

Answer 9

there is a 5 year age gap between my two girls, my youngest being just 6 months old now. I would definately recommend it! my eldest really helps out with her sister and theres only one child not sleeping! she is old enough not to be jealous and i can trust her to be alone with the baby. think very very carefully about having two small children!!

Answer 10

I have a 19month gap between my two children and even through i found it hard, espically for the first year, my youngest is now 2 and i am finding it so much easier. I have friend who have 3plus age gaps between thier children and they find it harder as thue children are both into completly different things and thier needs are so much different.