was this neglect? or not? i was ill but got no help?

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I became depressed, and too scared to go to school due to my mother's parenting. she wouldn't go out of the house/answer the phone/meet anyone for years and years. I didn't have any social skills/got bullied and never met anyone. no-one stopped the bullying. also...she married my dad to get out of the abusive situation at home....and after a few years she began to regret this...and they were sort of split up but living within the same house.
I begame school phobic...but no-one ever sought me any help from the doctors, never, also my needs weren't being adequately met.I became severely depressed and couln't think properly after losing 2 people. I was too scared to grieve since my mum didn't like one of them and i was scared of her reaction. anyway....I missed 4 years of school...and i was MENTALLY ill with depression...but no-one sought me any help/tablets/or anything. is this not abuse/neglect??Was it up to me to get myself out of the depression??
I missed 3 years of school on-and-off....was still ill.....came out of school altogether...didn't know what to do....and ended up having 3 measly hours of home education and got G grades in my GCSEs (apart from a D/C grade in English) i was mentally ill with depression....but yet no-one sought help for my depression/or my school phobia. is this not abuse? then no-one helped me /really supported me in what i could do next.....and I sat at home until I am now 18. I am now on anti-depressants.I canot BELIEVE what's happened. my life is RUINED. WHY was this ALLOWED to happen to me? did my parents neglect me/abuse me ...or not? what should I do about this? i live in England

Answer 1

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Answer 2

It sounds like you were neglected. From your description it is not clear to me whether there was abuse involved too or not. There may have been mental abuse too, I would need to know more to be able to say for sure.

Your life is not ruined. The neglectance and the mental illness being left untreated for so long certainly made things a lot harder for you and ruined those years for you, but you have your future ahead of you and it is YOU who can decide what to get out of the future. You no longer have to depend on your parents. Your illness can be treated and you can work on solving your other problems. It will take a while to get back on track and catch up with your peers, but believe me, it's doable.

I was abused and neglected through most of my childhood and my mental illnesses and physical health issues were left untreated. That did cause me a lot of problems and made things hard, but I didn't let it ruin everything for me. I finished my education, I got through depression and I'm working on my other illnesses and trying to solve my problems one by one. I refuse to give up and I advice you to not give up either. Keep going, take matters into your own hands now and work on your issues and do with your life what you want out of it. Your parents made it harder on you, but you can still get cured, overcome your problems, achieve something in life and become happy. I did it and so can you.

Keep taking the anti-depressants and seeing your psychiatrist. I suggest you also talk to a psychologist. Psychologists can help people work through issues like this and learn how to deal with such experiences. You can also get therapy for the social phobia there.

Good luck and hang in there, never give up.

Answer 3

See the Dr. that gave you the anti depressants & tell
them about how you feel & that you are not sure what steps to take in your life, I'm sure they can give you some advice or a group to go to.
My sister in law suffered w/ depression for years & her
Dr. had her in group therapy for a while, it helped my sisiter in law a lot, once she sall she was not the only one out thier w/ this problem.
She no longer goes to the program, is on meds & has a part time job cleaning in a hotel.
get help & good luck
I think your parents may have not got help for you because they did not want to admit you had a problem ( my Father in law was that way for a while)

Answer 4

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