Does it put men off if a girl wont go down on them?

Question

I have a point that I will not give oral sex to a man cause I think its degrading, also I dont know how. Does that put men off if you wont go down on them?

Answer 1

If the guy is decent, cares about you and wants a relationship with you and not just sex, then NO it will not put him off.

I actually understand when you say you think it's degrading- I have also felt like that before, when i was with someone who used to get me to do it all the time. It felt very degrading, like he was just getting an ego trip off it. I really struggle with it now, I very rarely feel comfortable doing it although I hope this changes eventually...

I do think though, that if you can build up a really great trusting and comfortable sexual relationship, you'll probably get over it and start feeling differently. As for technique, ask him to demonstrate how he likes it by sucking your fingers! That'll give you an idea of what to do. But even if you never come round to the idea, that's your deicision and don't let anyone tell you you're wrong.

Answer 2

It should not be degrading. You have to take another look at what being sexual with your partner means.
I would have understood if you said that you are not going to do it for any man unless the two of you are married. But it sounds like you will never do. Unless you could find a man that feels have a woman go down for him makes him feel like less of a man instead of satisfying his sexual nature in other ways besides intercourse, then the answer to your question is YES. Men do get turned off. Some may even walk away from a relationship because their partner is unwilling to do that.
With regards to you not knowing how, i just realized that that could be the reason why you do not want to do it. Not cause it is degrading but because you do not want to embarrass your self.
The man will show you what to do. Just tell him that it is your first time and you will find that he will be turned on a lot faster.
Just do not make him shove it down your throat. Your focus has to be on the head. Don't worry practice makes permanent. One day you will master it.

Answer 3

As with all sex acts it depends how you do it and with whom. Obviously if you had some bloke just screwing you and fekking off that would be degrading right? But you have someone who you have s*x with mutual respect.

Oral sex is the same. If you feel degraded doing it perhaps you are doing it to the wrong man? It is a very personal thing to do, and can take a bit of practise to get right but it is also lovely for you to be able to give your guy total pleasure like that.

If the problem is just nerves then just relax. It would probably turn a guy on more to think he was the one 'teaching' you!!! I'm not going to give you tips here - but just know that you don't have to ram it down your throat, you don't have to swallow, you won't choke etc and if the guy repsects you it will be fun for you both!

Answer 4

There's still a lot of old Victorian Era taboos about sex out there. But degrading? - no. When you connect with the right guy it's an act of love. From a man's point of view, it's a completely different sensation to vaginal penetrative sex. Yeah, when we're teenagers we're all desperate for the mythical "blowie", but in later life it's a magical part of foreplay. He should be happy to do whatever you find somewhere between intriguing and fascinating in return, whether that's sucking your toes, reading you poetry or whatever else.

Answer 5

Is it really because u think it's degrading or because you think you don't know how? Answer that first then you might be able to move forward.
If it was a quick fling I wouldn't be upset about not getting head however it's certainly something that I wouldn't want to go without so a relationship would be out if you weren't willing to go down. Would you expect ur partner to go down on you? If not then ur both missing out.

Answer 6

Hi, no not to a good loving and true man it wont, he will respect your feelings but make sure you have made that decision because you feel it really is degrading and not because "you dont know how"

If you wanted to learn, watch some adult movies,, and then try it, its really kind of second nature and practice makes perfect and he will also help you out and put you on the right path,, its all about learning toggehter but if you really dont want to do it,,, if he loves you he will more than understand!

Answer 7

HMM let me think......erm yes!!!
i think it would anyway, would it put you off if a man didnt wanna have sex with you???

if you dont know how to do it, why dont you ask if you can practice on him, he WONT say no and a nice little turn on for him!!!!
oh and it aint degrading, how can a BJ be degrading but him going down on you not?!?! i bet you want him to still go down on you. if thats right,...you are very selfish.
i love giving my man oral, i love how it makes him feel! guess you wont ever know what i mean untill you do it.

Answer 8

Hi Tia,
I dont think it is degrading but the main point is that you do not like it. I dont think it should put men off - they may be disappointed but sex should be about mutual respect.

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Answer 10

Honey you've got the wrong attitude. I don't know where you get degrading from.. it's actually very empowering. I would think it would be very off putting to any man knowing that you won't do that. Live & learn and you may just enjoy the wonders that you are denying yourself and whatever fella is putting up without it.