Why marry when liveing together dont cost so much and if she or he takes off then no need to worry abot divoce
2006-11-12 23:44:31 · 9 answers · asked by jccred7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, what I am about to say is not to make fun of your spelling by no means but does earthing mean everything? If not I don't know what you are talking about, but if it does, then my answer to your first question is....as for a woman taking everything when they leave, that statement is wrong. Not all women take everything when they leave, some do. I only believe in taking what was yours before entering into the relationship, if you had it to start with then you take it with you, if you didn't and you bought it together then you decide between the 2 of you who takes it.
Next question...why not just live together? If you say you love the person that you are living with and get married to them you are making the commitment to them saying that you want to be with them and NO other person. If you can't make that commitment to that person then why are you with them in the first place.
As far as not costing so much to just live together...that is bull. It cost as much for a couple to live together as it would if you are married to each other. The only way that would differ is if one of the couple is NOT working out side the home and the other is. Then yes it would cost more for the one working outside the home, but most couples that way want it that way, they love each other enough and can afford for one to say at home.
Next question...why even stay in a relationship if you are that uncertain about your partner. If you make each other happy, neither one is going to want to take off and leave the other. If one is unhappy then both of you need to work out the problem and get it solved, that is where coummunitcation comes in.
Since I have been married once already, I will live with someone first before I get married again. But when you are living with someone you can find out more about that person for the most part than you could if you was not living with them. I think that I can safely say that for the most part after living with a person any where from 6 months to a year you should know if you are going to make it as a couple or not. If you can then get married if not get out of the relationship and go your separate ways.
As far as a divorce goes, the woman does not always get everything either. When I got my divorce, I got my clothes and my furniture and my kids. HE got the house and land. The way it should be is the one that gets the kids gets to keep the house. But not always, at least it wasn't in my case.
2006-11-13 00:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, your English is, errr, something else... Use spell check before you post your next question, it maybe easier to understand if you do.
Getting to your question, What makes you think us women takes everything! I am an old fashioned women who believes in traditional values, and Marriage vow's actually mean a lot to me, as it does to my Husband too, you write this question like you think all Marriages fail, well, they don't, yes some do, but there are much more Marriages that survive than what ends in divorce.
With your outlook on Marriage I would suggest you never marry.
2006-11-13 07:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by hotbabes_tracey 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is up to you & if you feel comfortable with just living together do it.. ..But in some states living together is considered common law marriage & they still can get everything. If you want to get married & love someone why look at the negative stuff anyway. Marriage is built on long lasting love not how long do I stay with him before I get half.
2006-11-13 07:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by "karma" 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to marry, then don't. The point of getting married is to say that you intend to spend the rest of your life with someone. It's a show of faith. If you don't trust the relationship, maybe you should just let her go. She could find someone else who believes in her.
2006-11-13 08:43:30 · answer #4 · answered by Beth T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not a sane, valid or moral relationship between a man and a woman, and marriage is the place where a true family can exist. It's what made our nation great, because we didn't engage in stupid, idiotic practices like "living together."
Leave that to the liberal fools.
2006-11-13 07:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you just go through life then not fully in a commitment. you are not ready to be fully commited in your heart yet. so just go through life together half a_ss commited to each other. some feel it is the same yet in your heart thier is a knot yet that needs to be tied. if this workss for you , then it is ok. i am glad i am 100% commited to my man i walk thru life with.
2006-11-13 07:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it is the christian thing to do- if you are afraid she will take something IF by chance things do not work out, have a pre-nup made up beforehand.
2006-11-13 07:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by BubbleGumBoobs! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most marry with the thought of staying married till they die.
2006-11-13 07:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its silly idea.
u will not become a responsible person in life.
u will not know what love is,
just u will reamin a sex fellow.
2006-11-13 07:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋