my friend is a model and has been asked to do some porn how can i get her to not do it?

Question

she does topless modelling and nude artistic modelling but has recently been asked to do some porno work. i'm totally against it as i think she is demeaning herself how can i advise her not to do it

Answer 1

You can't get her to not do it. If she's 18, chances are she's going to make her own adult decisions.

I would never personally enter the porn industry, but today in the world of porn, porn ranges from what I consider to be tasteful to what I consider to be complete trash or overly perverse.

The best you can do is offer your opinion to her in a respectful way and not judge her for considering. Let her know the things you admire about her! Make sure you enforce the wonderful things about her, so that she may understand your point that you think she would be lowering herself if she would follow through with the pornography.

You could weigh out the list of pros and cons of entering the porn industry together (ie. Pros: Pornography is a high income occupation and in modern times, qualified porn stars are tested regularily for STDs and STIs). Con: It could damage her current reputation, "come back to her," and ruin chances in her career life after she leaves the porn industry. In other words, the pornography will be a ball and chain tied to her for the rest of her life that should would need to be willing to accept).

When you talk to her, if she feels judged, she could begin to avoid you and it could sever your friendship, because either a) she will be annoyed/upset by your judging or comments, or b) she could become too embarassed that you're disappointed in her.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You cant get her not to do it.
You can however voice your concerns to her as a friend in a non confrontational way. Explain that you are concerned for her and why you feel it is a bad idea. Ask her what she thinks, this way you can both voice your opinions without being negative. It may help her to make a more informed choice, though not necessarily the one your hoping for. Maybe you could do some research somewhere about it.

Answer 3

well you have to explain how bad an idea it is without her thinking your jumping down her throat. have her come over to your house to watch a movie or something. start the conversation saying something like 'So, are you still thinking about doing that modeling job?' then afterwards go on telling her your thoughts about it. it may help if you dont mention your full reason and stick to saying that your just looking out for her because she's a good friend to you and you dont want to see her doing something she'll regret. explain how many people get in s*** over porno madeling and how you just cant sit back and watch her ruin her life. then go on about how people who may see her will think she's a sl**and about how many people get raped over something like that. tell her that you think it's demeaning and make sure you tell her that she's too good for something as stupid and ridiculous as that. tell her that as her friend you just dont want to have to sit back and see her destroy her life, knowing that you never did anything to stop it. if you keep mentioning how terrific a person she is then it will seem more like friendly advice than an arguement. hope i helped you!

Answer 4

Unfortunately if this is what she wants then you cant stop her, I'm with you though, if my friend wanted to do this I would not like it and would try to stop her. I think the best you can do is to tell her of your concerns and ask her to reconsider? Other than that I don't know what else you could do.

Be careful as to not offend her though, you would rather still have her as a friend obviously.

Good luck.

Answer 5

in the end it has to be her decision, as much as you may think it's demeaning it is up to her and being her friend you can only voice your opinion..... remember a true friend will speak there mind, but also be supportive of there ultimate decision.....

if she gets paid alot of money and she enjoys it, and has no problem with the fact then so be it

Answer 6

Tell her to ask herself one question first. Would she want her kids and possible grandkids to see it if she does? We are not prudes, my wife has some wonderful nudes pictures from her 20s, she's quite proud of them(she's a hottie,LOL). And the kids have seen them too.

Answer 7

You might want to consider telling her to think of the future. Those movies are out there for a long time and they might come back to haunt her later in life.

Answer 8

if you've told her you don't approve then that's all you can do. her destiny and life choices are not yours to influence or make for her. i would just distance myself from this damaged little girl..her daddy did a good job long before you met her. you can't rescue someone on a self-destruct path. protect yourself and pray for her. Most women in the sex-business get pulled in deeper. they are like drug addicts and need more to get their fix.

Answer 9

Your friend is welcome to do anything she wants. She probably knows exactly what she's getting into and will do it whether you approve or not. The best thing you can do is be a good friend and make sure she is safe, doesn't get hurt or ripped off and be supportive of whatever she wants to do.

Answer 10

treat this as a drug-addict case. give her the warnings clearly & warn her that your friendship stands on the this decision. The rest will be up to her to decide. It will suck if she chooses to do the film but then at least you will know where you stood with her as a friend & it will motivate you to move on.