one of my mates has jus told me that shes a lesbian and that she fancies me but i am not a lesbian i am staright and have a boyfriend wot would you do please help and be serious?
2006-11-12 23:14:27 · 37 answers · asked by beci 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if you like men=tell her that you appreciate her friendship but are not interested in a sexual relationship with her.
2006-11-12 23:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have anything to worry about, she told you she fancied you cos she trusts you not to end your friendship she has a connection with you as your friend and probably feels comfortable confiding her feelings, this means she trusts your friendship, Just because she fancies you doesn't mean that she expects you to be with her in an intimate way,
If one of your bloke friends fancied you but you didn't return the feelings would you still be flattered? I expect you would take it as a compliment so just view this the same way.
Having said that if she does try anything on then she is not respecting you as a friend so you will need to set things straight should this happen!!
2006-11-13 02:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situations like this can always be tricky. You just need to explian you vaule her friendship, and enjoy being her friend but you don't have feelings in that way. We cannot change who we are sexuality wise, so your friend needs to accept nothing will happen between you. Tell her you accept her for who she is, but you don't think of her in that way seeing as you have a boyfriend.
Perhaps offer her some support. Depending how old you are, you could suggest you and her go to a gay bar to help her find a girlfriend? Because once she has a girlfriend her feelings for you will dissapear. I hope this helps :)
2006-11-12 23:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by matt_angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that I don't plan on changing who I am, and that I love my boyfriend and I can't be with her EVER. You should have said all of this from the start when she told you she was gay. You need to tell your friend that your not a lesbian and you don't plan to be one. She needs to know that your happy with your boyfriend and you want to keep it that way. Also tell her you don't plan on turning your back on the man you love.
2006-11-12 23:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no different to if one of your male friends fancied you really. Just tell them straight that you're sorry but you're not interested and that you value them as a friend so hope this doesn't affect your friendship. You can't be much clearer than that without hurting the other party.
2006-11-12 23:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by Fay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u ar not a lesbian and dont intend being one, then u dont have that much of an issue. u should simply tell her that u ar not a lesbian though u like her as a friend but thats all there is to it. tell her without mocking her or making her feel bad.
good luck.
2006-11-12 23:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect her abnormal feelings, just tell her: You are not a lesbian, you have a BF and always like to have good relationship with men and never with lesbian.
Though, you can maintain friendly relationships with anybody including you. So you won`t give her hope whensoever.
2006-11-12 23:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to make certain you back her off of hitting on you... and the only way you'll do that is by telling her... "You know I like you, but that's totally gross..." "I have no interest in you sexually and it sickens me to think of something like that..." "If you want to be Friends that's find, but don't mention a lesbian relationship to me ever again if you want to remain my friend..."
2006-11-12 23:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight to the point with her so she gets the message the first time. Tell her that you're straight and dont see her in that way and you'd be happy to keep things the way it is now. Good Luck! =D
2006-11-12 23:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by thugster17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've bothered to ask the question, then I suspect that you're just a little bit curious/tempted/flattered.
Ask your mate and your boyf if they're both up for a three in a bed thing. If you hate it, don't do it again.
2006-11-12 23:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you only like boys and if she is a true friend she will respect that.
If not she is not a true friend so dump her.
She may be jealous of your boyfriend and sees him as a threat to your friendship. If this is the case then you must reassure her that you care for her but only as a friend.
2006-11-12 23:20:40 · answer #11 · answered by bluenose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋