is it an affair?

Question

if you are married and having cybersex and phone sex with another married person, is it an affair and how should you end it ifyou think it is getting too far? Never did it physically nor would

Answer 1

would YOU call it cheating if your wife/husband was doing this with someone else?

basically, you tell the other person it's gone too far, and not to call you again.
change your number and change your Internet email/messenger name..etc.
stop all contact with that person
then...hope your wife/husband is the forgiving type.

physical or not..the HURT of it comes from the disrespect of your wife/husband...whether or not you actually had sex, or just talked dirty to each other, etc. the fact that you disrespected the person your suppose to be true to is what makes it wrong.

Answer 2

Affairs are affairs---you are visually and verbally committing the sexual act---

When you said your vows when you got married----You I am sure promised to forsake all others----(no screwing around)

It's an affair----and if you think about it----how would you feel if your spouse was doing the same thing with someone else? Would you then ask the question of IS IT AN AFFAIR?

If you put 1/2 the energy that you've put into sneaking around and cybering in email and on the phone as you've done with this other married person and put that energy into YOUR marriage and with YOUR partner YOU"RE married to you would find out that your MAN / WOMAN is where you should be.

You need to stop your foolishness and put an end to this cyber fling before this person is knocking at your door for a nooner!

Answer 3

Yes, it is an affair. Although the physical aspect isn't there, the mindset is. Often times, the emotional aspect is there as well. to end it, I would simply be truthful. Say something like "I can't do this anymore, I feel like it's getting too involved" Be sure that you're assertive when you talk to this person, so they don't feel like they're getting mixed messages. Hope you find the answer you're seeking.

Answer 4

Simply, yes. But, more importantly, you need to try to figure out what is weong with your marriage. Cybersex can become an addiction. And people get into it because of the fantasy component and the relative safety and distance of the internet. Get some counseling.

Answer 5

I think it is just a question of extending the boundries.... at one point of time I am sure you would not have even imagined indulging in cybersex or phone sex, but you are doing it now, right? so its just a question of pushing the boundries a tad more. If you wanna steer clear of it all... then just end it all ... go cold turkey ! And be faithful to your spouse both physically and mentally. In the long run you will be happier .

Answer 6

to have an affair you don't have to have a physical contact. it is a betrayal none the less. when you over step the boundaries of marriage or trust you are asking for trouble. end the cyber relationship. Yes this can be used against you in court when filing for a divorce.

Answer 7

This is definatly an affair. YOu are taking your energy and paying attention to another woman.

You are also setting youself up for taking it to the next step/

You are having an emotional care. YOUr wife will miss you and eventually you could lose your entire family.

Get your validation and passion from your wife.

Answer 8

Phone sex yes, cybersex is a bit of a grey area. Its not what married commited people should be doing.
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Answer 9

More than one kind of an affair.......emotional and physical. An emotional one is just as dangerous as the physical. You figure it out, are YOU doing these things with your partner?? No, they're doing it with somebody ELSE!! Cheating is cheating,

Answer 10

I agree with rain. YOu start to accept the deviant behavior that you are engaged in and sooner or later take the next step. I would suggest stopping your virtual affair adn find out what it would take to have phone sex with your current partner. Who knows? Maybe it is somehting he/she would really enjoy