I jst want a general opinion.. guys n girls..
2006-11-12 22:29:41 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your not happy, your mate is not happy.. but a back alley affrair is surely not the fair way 2 play it.. if you lost that loving feeling, why stay.. make the break, then have all the affairs till your little heart is content..
2006-11-12 22:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh this comes from an old lady that has been around the block a few times. Affairs add to your problem. First you are unhappy to even consider an affair so why add the guilt of one also. I have never cheated during any relationship and was in a loveless marriage for over 20 years. You have to ask yourself is it a short term fix to a problem. A problem you should be discussing with your spouse. Is the problem something that can be worked out? Are you both misreading each other's intentions and creating a problem that might not exist? This day and age we are too fast to do the affair scene, just be careful and consider do you want to lose what you have now.
2006-11-12 23:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by frizzle1229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer is, if you are not in love and find that your marriage is a mistake, then get out of your marriage. If you do love your spouse but just have some issues in your marriage, work on them together and try to save your marriage.
An affair is the last thing you want to get into, however, if you can't get out of your marriage for family, financial or other reasons, you have to decide if an affair will really make you happy and if it's worth the risk. Just an opinion from someone that has had an affair.
2006-11-12 22:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by NH L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call it an extra-marital affair---call it cheating---call it whatever you want----IT"S WRONG--
You are in control of yourself and your marriage----Make yourself happy with your spouse-----Grass is not always greener on the other side---Think of the consequences and the devastation you're affair will have on your wife/ husband, children and extended family (like your parents and your partners parents)
If you think about it ----maybe you should both receive couples counseling and maybe a weekend retreat for 2 would help rekindle what you're seeking!!
Marriage is work and it takes two to communicate with one another as to what the aspectations are in your relationship. Maybe you're unhappy because you've had a breakdown in marital communication!!!
You've got some work to do ----now do it!!! Before your marriage is lost forever !!!! Extramarital affairs will bring doom to your situation!
2006-11-12 23:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
In ur right thinking after reasoning u'd find that having an extra martial affair is not wrong at all cos u sustain the need or rather desires of ur own self the way u should be getting. And certainly not wrong at all when ur unhappy with ur spouse.
2006-11-12 23:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by Charmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is wrong. If you are not happy with your marriage, the best thing to do is get out of it. It is not fair to either you or your spouse if you have vows to go by (no matter how miserable) to have an extramarital affair. It may cause a lot of havoc.
2006-11-12 22:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly alright if a man & woman are not getting along well;
But best would be to call off such a marriage & then go ahead with your own ways.Coz the people involved in such extramarital relationships have to go thru much hardships!
Every person is entitled to a happy life- always remember this.
2006-11-13 03:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't wrong. Loving someone is from the purest heart and both couples are passionate with each other. Nevertheless, being a third party is not easy and will be critism by public and major people.
If you have problems with your spouse, I would suggest have a talk and organise some romance moments and reflect those sweet memories while on dating relationship. I do not know what cause you unhappy but once you had chosen your spouse as your whole-life partner, you should cherish with her while you can.
2006-11-12 23:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy....... then why do you want the relation with you spouse.......... and if your keeping the relation then why an extramarital affair. It for you to decide dont try to sail in 2 boats at a time. be sure either you let your spouse go (divorce) or maintain the realationship with her.
2006-11-13 14:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by Cool gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you have an open discussion with your spouse on how you feel and find out from her what is the cause that makes her repulsive towards you.
To have an extramarital affair will not solve your marriage problem but only only make it worst.
2006-11-12 22:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
extramarital affairs are plague to our society which slowly killing the moral fabric.
being unhappy with ur spouse does not give u the license to have an affair. how will u feel if ur spouse wants to do the same?
2006-11-12 22:38:43 · answer #11 · answered by fat 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋