What do i do?

Question

i had a misunderstanding with a cousin of mine.We used to be really, really close when we were younger.But, i cant stand her mother(my aunt).I think shes an obnoxious snob.I tried not to show it, coz i like my cousin a lot,but i guess i must have slipped up and made a comment on her mom sometime, i think i may have because of what happened later.
Her mom came to india (they are in switzerland) for another cousins wedding.I wrote an email to her saying that the wedding was very nice and i had fun and it was a nice chance " to see another side to her mother" Now, i didn't mean anything bad OR insulting by saying this, just that it was the first time i had seen her outside the "home environment"(we had to travel together to another city to attend the wedding).Anyways, she never replied to this mail and i didn;t knw y until a yr later when her mother came for a visit and asked What exactly i meant by my mail and i explained it as well as i could.She was like, oh, alright.
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But, she still didnt mail me, and i was pretty upset and didn;t mail her either.Now, her mother has breast cancer and i want to write to her.But, what do i say?She knws her mother isnt my fav person in the world, but i wouldnt have wished cancer on her. Should i write to her and if i do, what should i say?

Answer 1

you don't have to like someone to feel terrible that they are sick or dying.

I'd write to your cousin and say "i hope we can put whatever differences we had behind us. i feel terrible that your mom is ill and want to let you know i'm here for you if you ever need anything, even just to talk."

maybe also send a nice card to your aunt telling her you're thinking about her. cards can often say what we have trouble saying ourselves.

Answer 2

There is an old saying never judge a book by it's cover and i think you got the better end of the stick by your aunt's other side.
you are family and no matter what issues are between you and your cousin, her mom is ill and if you love your cousin like you say you do i think it's best you keep constant communication with your cousin because she needs your love and support especially at this time. And don't expect her to be nice, just be there for her.

Answer 3

You know that sometimes when life is really hard, that's when you need your friend. No matter the ups and downs that is how you know that the person is your friend.
Think about it no one likes everything about every ones mother, you just got noticed on your opinions. DON"T FORGET that this is your friend. She is going through more than you could imagine. Unless you have been there you need to let your friend know that you are ther for her and her family. If you have been there already then you know that she has been thinking about you a lot but didn't want to disrespect her mom. Friends always try to be there when they are needed, even if it is just to give a laugh or smile. For your answer, A simple I am sorry for what you are going through and I miss our friendship I am here for you if you need someone or a friend.

Answer 4

you should write to her cuz her mom has cancer. this is a chance for you to explain wht u REALLY meant that u hve said in the mail. also you should tell her that you don't really like her like asi in really like hjer but u still like her as in like her. you would still care her, and stuff like that...