This is kind of a personal question. My wife is 7 months pregnant with twins. She feels really bad because she can't have sex with me, and of course I understand. She wanted me to try anal so i did, but of course that hurt too much. The question is how can I help her enjoy anal sex? What can i do to make it feel better?
2006-11-12 21:54:05 · 13 answers · asked by Kenny S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She has a large cist on her ovary so every time we try to do it normally I poke that and it puts her in much agony.
2006-11-12 22:32:35 · update #1
Jeese people. She wants me to do it and every time I say no she gets mad. I am just trying to see if there was any way to make it less painful or even pleasurable. I have only done it once because she would not take no for an answer. I would never harm my wife in any way, and I only do this as to her request. So please stop with the unnecessary personal attacks.
2006-11-12 22:36:03 · update #2
I would say you shouldn't try to have anal sex, or regular sex since she does have a cist. Those can be awfully painful and need to be taken care of. My best advice would have to be to let her know that you love her and you don't want to hurt her. I know when my wife was pregnant with twins she tried her best to keep up with my pleasure but I knew it only hurt her. Pregnant woman have a hard time lying and standing in certain positions, and the last thing they need is a large thing sticking up their ***.
What my wife really liked was when I massaged her whole body and traced her private areas with my tongue. Once I moved down to her anal area she went wild, and she didn't need an orgasm. After that she was completely satisfied.
It sounds like your wife has a self-esteem issue. I am guessing she is young and this is her first pregnancy. She seams like she is afraid that if she doesn't "take care" of you then you might look elsewhere. She is willing to put her discomfort after your pleasure. She sounds like a keeper but don't keep letting her think she needs to do that, it isn't healthy and will only feed her insecurity. Let her know how much you love her and that no matter how long it takes for things to be back to normal you will keep loving her. You only have a few more months to go. I say few because with a cist on her ovary she will need a longer recovery time than a normal birth. Just do your best to make her feel loved and keep most of your focus on her and what she needs. Let her know that what you need is only what is best for her needs.
Good luck and congradulations on the twins, they are going to be a handful.
2006-11-12 22:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, unless your wife's doctor has specifically told her to abstain from sex, there is no reason that you cannot have a normal sex life while she's pregnant. Though, for twins, there is obviously a greater risk of delivering early, so it would be normal if her OB/GYN have put her on pelvic rest.
Which brings me to the point that pelvic rest would also include anal sex. Pelvic rest means no orgasms for your wife, and abstaining from all activity that can cause the uterus to contract. That means no sex, no masturbating, no fingering, no oral sex, and no anal sex for your wife whatsoever.
As for the general question of how anal sex is most easily accomplished - the key is to gradually stretch the sphyncter. That means starting with a well-lubed finger, working it around, then moving to 2 or 3 fingers, then a small toy, and then a penis. Each step should be slow and include plenty of lube. Each time something larger is introduced, you should insert it a little, then wait a few seconds for her to accomodate you, then a little more, followed by some waiting, etc, etc. It should be completely painless. Pain signals a problem - most commonly a tear in her rectum which is not going to be fun. If she has hemorrhoids with her pregnancy, you need to scrap the whole anal sex idea.
2006-11-12 22:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by antheia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal is not an option to start getting used to when your 7 months pregnant with twins, try oral sex or something but the anal thing is a really bad idea right now
2006-11-12 22:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Caro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Erm .... is there a reason she can't have sex? Intercourse is perfectly safe entirely during the pregnancy, unless her doctor specifically tells her not to .. in which case it's MORE harmful to engage in anal.
Aside from that .. there is absolutely nothing you can do to make your wife enjoy anal sex. This is something a lot of men do not want to hear, but listen carefully. There is the odd woman that enjoys it, and that's a very low percentage. There are the odd ones that will put up with it, simply to make their man happy, and those are a bit of a larger percentage.
The main percentage finds it extremely painful, not in the least enjoyable, and wishes you'd quit talking about it.
I suggest you do a little research on google about it as well. It's not only painful and uncomfortable, it's very dangerous, thanks to the blood vessels in that area, and can cause her medical problems and serious harm.
2006-11-12 21:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is still thinking of what pleases you and shes 7 months pregnant with twins. give her a break! she is only offering anal as she feels bad. you should stop thinking about yourself and you should make her feel good without sex! anyway if you have never had anal, you cant just do it, it has to be a graduual progression thing. ouch! pamper her and treat her like a princess, pretend you dont need sex for 2 months in your life! dont be selfish.
2006-11-12 22:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being pregnant takes a told on a womans body. AND with the extra toll of carring twins I would prefer a cuddle in bed. MOVING around is killer with one child I can only imagine the discomfort she is in.
ITs noce she offered anal, but I would suggest just spooning together in bed. THe closeness togeth will satisfy each other. ANd if its YOU who needs a release Just jerk off in the shower or something. YOU tend to your needs. And IF you want to try anal at a later date . LUBE LUBE LUBE
2006-11-12 22:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by cowsfreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you have sex? That makes no sense unless there is some kind of complication. But if that were true I'm sure the docs would frown upon anal sex as well. I suspect this question is bogus.
2006-11-12 21:59:34 · answer #7 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't suggest anal sex during pregnancy as it can lead to infection if liquids mix and this can be harmful and painful to your wife.I am assuming that sex is uncomfortable for her or she has a medical problem why not try sensual massage naked body to body rubs they can be just as arousing if you use lots of oil and have an ambient setting have fun :)
2006-11-12 22:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by punkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex is more harmful than vaginal sex. Seriously.
Go on and resort to Palmala Handerson for the next several weeks. Anal's hurting your wife, who, in case you forgot, is pregnant with your kids.
God, I'm glad I'm married to MY husband. I almost feel sorry for your wife, because you were selfish enough to ask this question.
2006-11-12 22:03:38 · answer #9 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude forget the anal with the 7 month pregnant mother of your children. Figure out other ways you can have releases genius.
2006-11-12 21:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by messtograves 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋