I'm not being bah humbug, there are genuine reasons for this & they just stress me out each time i see them. My partner refuses to spend time with them & I would rather spend time with my partner over the festive period. My friend thinks it would be wrong to pretend we will be away on holiday in order to avoid going to any of those family events...
2006-11-12 21:51:06 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ive got the same problem with my -- 'out-laws' But luckily for me they are going abroad this year so we are safe. Next year might be different though cos we've had some turbulent times and I dont think I will ever feel the same about them again.
I would try and keep it nice for the children we have but if it weren't for them I wouldn't be bothering.
2006-11-12 21:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to talk to you family first. Tell them that you don't like how stressful Christmas is. Maybe there are reasons why it is stressful. Sometimes helping out can make the day less stressful.
If you lie to your family, that isn't good for your family or you. If you are serious about having a Christmas at home, why not just say, Mom and dad, my parnter and I have decided to spend Christmas together at home. If they don't understand then maybe you should talk to them about that. Also you could always have Christmas with them a bit early or suggest having Christmas at your house the next year.
2006-11-13 10:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by blushingivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? Or has your partner gone mad? This is one occasion for the family reunion. Either you spend the Christmas with your family or with your partner's family, if she/he has one.
Stressing out is an imaginary one. You have to share the feelings freely and openly and this is one occasion one should not avoid. Make up your end as to in which family you want to spend your Christmas festivity.
2006-11-13 06:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know family's suck. Book a holiday with your partner over the festive period. even just a 3 day break. Book a caravan in the lake district. It is a very nice area.
2006-11-13 05:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with your family and put your cards on the table so that they know how you feel maybe they took things for granted and they dint know how you feel personally.
You have a family make use of the fact others dint have family. My advise is, spend just a little time with them then you can go out and have a quiet time alone with your partner.
2006-11-13 06:00:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bridget S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least spend a little time with them maybe about an hour or so. Then you could be with your partner. I din't spend holidays with family for some years and they were the lonliest times in my life. Your family won't be around forever so spend time with them while you still can.
2006-11-13 06:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the head of your own family and the master of your home. If you don't wanna spend time around family and relatives during Christmas, just tell them you don't wanna be bothered and would rather keep to yourselves. If that's not good enough for them, too bad. They should appreciate your honesty.
2006-11-13 06:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by elthe3rd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you not quickly visit them? Surely you buy each other presents so you need to exchange them? You could go round to your family but say you are going on somewhere else and give yourself a time period you can be with them, say one-two hours and just control yourself while you are there - after all it is Christmas!
2006-11-13 05:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could tell them the truth and say you don't feel like a big family christmas this yr, other than that, you will have to lie. Good luck, and merry xmas!
2006-11-13 05:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by fireball71_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say you want to spend xmas day with your partner and pop round on boxing day to see your family briefly, your partner could pop round her families on boxing day to
2006-11-13 05:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Keira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋