She says I am too large for her and I will hurt her. I just cant understand her and cant force myself on her. Is she being unfaithful?
2006-11-12 21:46:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
AT 32 YOUR MENTAL STATE SOMEHOW REPRESENTS THAT OF A ADOLESCENT TEEN............
SHE IS NOT BEING UNFAITHFUL YOU DUMBO, JUST A LITTLE APPREHENSIVE. SHE NEEDS SOME COMFORT & HEALING & ASSURANCE........ LOVE MAYBE.....
2006-11-12 21:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sarang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're 5 foot 11 but how much do you weigh? Why would she think you are too large for her. Is she a virgin? Because if not, it's time to consumate. This is too early in the marriage for her to start trippin like that, Bro! Maybe she's not sure she wanted to marry. She is very young. Do you have a lot of money? Because if everything seems cool during the day but at night she gets in the bed and rolls over to her side, she might not be with you for your looks.
2006-11-13 05:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by elthe3rd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either unfaithful or too faithful.
and it only been a month, wait it out a little longer if you really love her. Respect her wishes for now, then in a couple of months, ask again. Maybe after the New Year, do something romantic and then get her to have sex with you or something.
2006-11-13 05:50:49 · answer #3 · answered by IHaveQuestions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, i dont think she's being unfaithful. She is just apprehensive. A lot of women are afraid to do it the first time.
Talk to her about her fears and get it out in the open. Maybe she is just using her frailness as an excuse for something she hasnt told you. So talk to her, show her you love & care.
All the best.
2006-11-13 06:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Varan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle & handle her with care dude.
She needs reassurance that you are not hurting her.
Talk to her as if you are talking to child,(ofcourse, she is a child)
educate her about sex. She might be scared or got a wrong idea of sex.
Never force her, this will aggrevate her unwillingness.
Or pretend that you are less interested in this for a time being, she may raise a doubt & will fell for you.
Make romance first ,Then make love in the bed.
Or watch a adult cateogory films to pursue her.
2006-11-13 06:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kanchi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, do not force her, show a lot of love and respect. I do not know how educated she is about sex, let me tell a story. It happened to my grand parents. It was long ago, but I guess still happens today. My grandpa marry my grandma and she was complete naive and innocent about sex. She knew nothing. Six months later, my grandpa took my grandma back to my Great grandpas, so finally they explain something to her and finally they had sex. I am not telling you to take your wife back, but if she is naive as my grandma, she is probably uncertain, unsure and scared. Make sure the first time is wonderful for her.
2006-11-14 19:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by bbluckylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know of a woman now, when talking of her wedding night, said she almost lost it when she saw her husband naked. She was a virgin, she said she told him "your not putting that big thing in me" and locked herself in the bathroom.
I know this has happen to more then a few people. A friend left his bride on their wedding night because she told him she wouldn't have sex with him, she thought it was abhorrent and ugly, he left her at the hotel and went back home, never to see her again after the annulment.
So, how big are you and were talking about...you know what? is she a virgin? you might start with foreplay, maybe masturbation at first, let her get the feeling, then touching, both of you. Slowly at first.
Maybe some porno videos if she willing to help with sex attitudes, they do help and are recommended. Let her take the lead, maybe talk her through it, let her know how good it feel so she knows she's making you happy. Than make her happy, tell her to talk you through it, then let her get on top so she doesn't feel confined, Good luck Pal.
2006-11-13 07:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey my opinion is get her involved in other act of love like kissing etc.... this might get an interest try this for some time and then i think it might change her view and also make her understand that you are her husband and you care for her and you wont hurt her
2006-11-13 23:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by Cool gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should be a little supportive?
Maybe you don't give her oral sex so she is able to let you in? hello?
treat her like a goddess dude..she will let you have sex with her..I doubt you are large...
It's probebly your attitude..be loving and romantic and touch her..suck her nipples...gently touch her down there..kiss her passionalty..tell her she is beautiful..go down on her and make her orgasm..maybe you are not that good at oral sex? go learn how to make a woman purrrrrrrrr....first..
2006-11-13 12:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think U indirectly trying to invite females.... If Not , have a word with ur wife, explain ur emotions to her, take her to a gynocologist and then see how things fall into place...
I am sure ur wife will start looking beautiful gradually.
Go ahead dude...
2006-11-14 00:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by bangalore_dates 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi uncle,
its simple,first belive this words,and repeat it in ur mind 25 times.
in ur way sex is not a problem,lack of comunication is the major part.u r not doing now ?maybe !!! dont do it for another wek,but talk with her make her undersatnd.sex is a part of our body,right ???but whne u do it where u get exitment ??? in ur mind ????.talk talk talk ask her what she is sacred of,in her childhood she heard somthing about it,or before her mergage any one told somthing stupid to her.ASK, SPEAK.
slowly,it dosnt take more than 12 days.i promise.
best of luck.
2006-11-13 10:14:35 · answer #11 · answered by hem_169 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋