2006-11-12 21:36:37 · 24 answers · asked by raul b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Try talking to her.
Have discussion regarding this and talk your heart out.
U dont have to be with something you dont like!!
2006-11-12 21:42:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anne H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you against it? Are you frightened that she will run off with another girl?
It is a misconception that all bisexuals are unfaithful and will ditch you for a member of the sex different to your own. Whilst this can happen, it is no more or less likely than a heterosexual/homosexual cheating on their partner. Being cheated on is bad enough; does the potential gender of the third person really make it any more or less worse?
You might be also frightened of the unknown. Bisexuals are people who are difficult to categorise, and people feel threatened by those who they can't put into a little box. The concept of labels and boxes are man-made. Also, the absence of a bisexual community adds to the misconceptions and mystery which surround bisexuality.
All you really need to do is establish whether your girlfriend still loves you. If she does, then you need to be supportive and understanding towards her. Remember, she is attracted to both males and females, and out of them - she chose to be with you.
You might want to look at some informative bisexual web sites, to get an understanding of what bisexuality is all about.
2006-11-13 09:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that she should change because of your preference? Did she ever suggest that you should change into something that you might not want / need? How does it feels?
From what I understand, you wanted a girlfriend that is not bisexual - is this correct? Does that mean that if she is one, you are not interested in her?
This goes the same with clothes - she 'should' wear the clothes that you 'prefer', however, if she changes her dressing (whether 'internal' or 'external'), it goes against your 'principles'.
I am not sure what I would do, I wish you know what you should do. I only know that I could buy a handphone or learn something - that belongs to me forever until I lost or broke it. It becomes my property and I could do with what I wanted.
Having a relationship with another human being is about mutual respect. If she can't have my approval because I do not respect her ways and vice-versa, then there can be no relationship - that's a big risk; whose risk is it?
Cheers! - I hope you make the right choice.
2006-11-13 06:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by Phillip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all .. did you know this prior to getting together with her? If you did, then you had no right to get into the relationship knowing it, only to complain about it later. If you didn't, we move on to ...
Why are you against it? Examine what it is that bothers you about her being bisexual. Bisexual doesn't mean she's going to run out and cheat on you. It simply means she has physical attraction to both genders. She's already in a relationship with you, so there isn't the issue of her being with a female now. Unless that in itself is the issue, that she wants to be .. in which case it's not her being bisexual that is a problem .. it's her wanting to be unfaithful.
Either way ... what it boils down to is this. You can't change who a person is, or how they think, or what they want. It's up to you to find someone to be with who you are compatible with on those levels. If her sexual preference is something you can't condone, then move on and find someone you're more compatible with. But do not judge her or the type of person she is based on her sexual preference, and realize that the next move is based on your own preference and willingness to compromise what you consider as compatibility.
2006-11-13 05:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jaded 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First Don't Hope for a threesome. Those things are really not all they are cracked up to be. Second, If she just told you, ask her. OK does this mean that you are going to act on your feelings? Let her know it bothers you. Try not to judge her, it might be a hard thing she is doing. After all women come out later than males do most of the time. You might find that she loves you very mush and does not want to hurt you. I think that sometimes at first when women don't know what they want they think OK he can be in it with me. That never works. One person always gets left out and I hate to say it but it is more often than not the male.
Also.. If she is and she does want to act on it please don't look at it as the end for you.. I have been down and out in love myself and still after a very long time I got over the pain and moved on.
Try to remember that not every woman is going to do you the same way. Sometimes I feel sorry for people. Not you hon, just people. I see it. When it comes to love sometimes its like a revolving door until we find the right one to be with. So.. If she wants to act on it give her wing and let her fly.. If she comes back and you want her.. she might be yours forever. If not she never really was. ....
good look
2006-11-13 06:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggested? How does one suggest they are bi-sexual? If she is bi-curious then she may just have a fantasy in which after more explored may not even like it. If she is straight out bi-sexual then you cant change that, and it wouldnt be fair to either of you to try to do so. If you love her you would talk to her about how you feel. Dont judge her. If in the end this doesnt change and you are still not ok with it, then its not good for either of you to stay togeather. You cant change what a person feels inside.
But why so against it? I understand if your beliefs are against it, but you cant judge people, can only love them for who they are and accept them. Its not like she's gonna leave you for another girl, and she isnt gonna cheat on you with some girl. And if you think she will, then you dont have enough trust in her and trust is a big key in relationships. She ( in my oppinion ) may have told you so she isnt "hiding" anything from you. Sounds like she cares about you enough to be honest. Respect that. Try to talk and work your issues on this out. Try to understand .
2006-11-13 05:43:04 · answer #6 · answered by stoneydork21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with sangheili, if she's not cheating on you, what's the problem. I had a partner who was/is bisexual. I didn't have a problem with it, I explained to him that as long as he was in a relationship with me he should respect me enough to stay faithful. we ended up breaking up over money differences, but that's another story.
Trust is more important.
2006-11-13 07:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by arcanehex 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's stupid. She can't help her sexuality and if you love her you will be with her until she actually gives you a reason to leave her. If you get bothered by something like this then she deserves better.
2006-11-13 15:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say to let her play I am bi and I love my husband but I give him the respect he gave me He let me play and figure out that it was him that I really wanted yes the woman I was with was great but she couldn't make me feel like he does. Give her time to figure it out on her own.
2006-11-13 07:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by crazy blonde & beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be against it? If she's bisexual then that's who she is. You can chose to not be involved in a relationship with her but there's nothing you can do to change her. Maybe with your attitude you're turning her gay.
2006-11-13 05:39:53 · answer #10 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋