I have been invited to an Anne summers party this saturday I have two friends that I see on a regular basis and we hang out together all the time I have invited one of them but am unsure of the other. The reason being is that when she has a drink she gets real drunk and gets very arguementative with people and doesnt remember the next day. The last thing I want is to upset her by telling her about her outbursts or have world war 3 going off at my friends party
2006-11-12 21:03:45 · 10 answers · asked by Pet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Are u afraid to upset her?
2006-11-12 21:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by answerer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll find out about the outbursts eventually. I think you should tell her why you haven't invited her, and then make sure she doesn't know where the party is happening because the last thing you need is for her to crash it while off her face.
You're a good friend to the one having the party, so be a good friend to the one who can't hold her drink.
2006-11-13 00:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with inviting 1 friend and not the other. If the one not invited asks why tell them the truth.
People that drink and can't remember what happened are alcoholics, they make terrible friends. If that person gets mad about not being invited, SO WHAT. Even if they say they won't drink, don't believe them, because they will change thre mind and drink anyways and spoil everyone time.
2006-11-12 21:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Axel M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is your friend then you need to tell her not to argue and embarrass you.
its bound to get back to her if you go without her, and this will make her feel worse than if you explain to her the way she is when she has a drink.
you could start with.... "i know its not your fault, but when you have a drink, you get really rowdy and argumentative, i love you as a friend but it's starting to be a worry towards the end of the night", then tell her that you want her to come to the party but there are people there who won't react well to her anger, so could she maybe not drink.
if she is reasonable, she will understand and appologise for the situations she has put you in. if she kicks off.... she's not worth bothering with... and your problem is solved cos she probably wont come out with you anymore.
its well know that groups of 3 friend very rarely last...
2006-11-12 21:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by Helen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
,hi, the way i see it either way she is going to be upset, if you don't take her she will feel left out and if you tell her the reason why she will think you are having a go at her, you will either have to say she can come if she promises not to drink and explain as diplomatic as you can why, or make some excuse up like it was your friend who invited you and you couldn't bring anyone else with you...or some other convincing excuse... good luck
2006-11-12 21:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the one you have known the longest and then invite your other friend to something else even if it's just going out or something so they don't feel left out about anything
2006-11-12 21:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by Emma 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be upfront and tell them both the truth.still you don't have to,you could just say you where allowed just one invite,and you been trying to call her and you didnt get her...you can make up something..
2006-11-12 22:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by lady c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her but just keep an eye on what she drinks
2006-11-12 21:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by String of pearls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her but tell her not to drink to much just be honest with her
2006-11-12 21:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your friend about her behaivior, she might learn to act better if she thinks people dont want to be around her.
2006-11-12 23:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋