My wife-to-be and me are facing some probs. She betrayed me 3 times and i forgive her. Though she nv physically hold any guys but she did met one of e guy b4. Recently, she flared at me for noting and initiated a breakup. Den she go into IRC n find new guys tellin them she is single for several months. Can I noe wad to do to save tis r/s? I really love her alot. What can I do to improve? What can I do to make a girl feel better? I really am desperate for an answer. Please help me if you can, anyone. Thanks everybody
2006-11-12 20:34:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has not only done this to you once, she has done it three times. How do you know she was never physical with any of the guys? Were you there seeing what she was doing, or because she told you so? You think after your married she will treat you better? It will only get worse believe it or not? Do you love this woman enough to have her going around sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry after your married? If you want that type of relationship then by all means marry her, If not then you need to move on and find someone who will love you and respect you enough not to sleep around.
2006-11-12 21:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 11:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think u can do it better if she really doesn't want u, to tell u the truth some girls don't believe that a man can be her guy that protects her when he forgives everything bad she does. and i think u should put consequences when she does it wrong, its not a good thing when u just forgive what ever she does.
she hurt your marriage and u should be a tough guy and make a serious issue out of it. maybe when you turn to be serious about it she will too.
but still if she doesn't want you, you can't make her.
but i think she just needs attention so pay her attention when she is good to you.
good luck:)
2006-11-12 20:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by simply_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never loose the control for all or most of things,specially talking about women,nothing and nobody is unreplasable,even when you feel the opposite.
Now you are in a hole and youll deal to escape.
Dont change respect for anything;that comes back to you very badly,didnt you know that?
Its time to get a life.
2006-11-12 20:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by whatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not an answer that i like to give. but think that it would be best if you just left her. whenever you two fight, she goes into cyberspace and says that she is single. i don't think a person in her right mind would do that immediately.
have a bit of respect for yourself. don't beg her to be together still when it is obvious she doesn't rally care about you and the relationship.
i think what she is doing to you is way too brutal and disrespectful. and i'm sorry to tell you that the relationship is doomed.
2006-11-12 20:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a partner cheats, and you are certain, don't waste any more time. Split and find someone else...your relationship will always be soured and diminished if you are a faithful person yourself.
This has nothing to do with religion, just common sense!
2006-11-12 20:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Melt: I didn't read what these others told you, it's all beside the point. First you seem to have trouble communicating?
This is your "wife to be" ? you scared me, I thought you were already married. Get rid of her now before it's to late. I'm going to read your future, she's going to be sleeping in the sack with other guys and lying to you, your going to believe her and write to us with your fears. We're going to tell you "we told you so"
She's going to be dominant, the Alpha wolf and tell you what to do, where to go, how much to do, your going to do it, for years until you get tired of it and get out so, get out now, save your youth.
2006-11-12 22:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on dont let her hold you back in life.Go and find someone who has dignity for herself. who's going to love you as much as you love her if not more and honor your relationshp. you sound desperate and she probably sees that and takes advantage of you. Theres alot of women who would take care and appreciate you. DUMP HER
2006-11-12 21:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way love does not work, start over and be stronger the next time and wiser.
2006-11-12 20:45:50 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheat, always a cheat.
Dump her, find someone with some loyalty and morality.
2006-11-12 20:42:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ozymandias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋