One of my closest and best friends whom i love like a sister is wondering if there was such things as a way to naturally cause a miscarriage. Mainly b/c her bf and his family is devout catholic. If his folks even found out, they'd both be in ubber trouble. Neither one of them would be able to deal w/having a baby. My friend would rather do the unthinkible than even tell her bf. Would there be a way to find out if she is w/out a pregnancy test? From what i understand is she's not expecting her period until the end of the month around the 28th, so until then...? What can I do for her?
2006-11-12 19:17:54 · 11 answers · asked by dr3am1ngang3lfl0w3r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well what if the bf doesn't believe in using protection b/c of his faith?
2006-11-12 19:37:46 · update #1
If her periods are the average every 28 days, and she isn't due for a period until Nov. 28th then she would just be conceiving - NOW. Maybe. Maybe not for another couple of days. I doubt if she is even pregnant. Your friend needs to either abstain or get some protection.
Claudine Crews
2006-11-12 19:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by claudineintexas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not real comfortable but getting to the sister, her age is very young to be asking about this. You might want to take her to a high school where teens are parents and show how alone they are. Show her what the reality is if things don't go as you think they would. I work in a middle school, I see this scenario WAY TOO OFTEN. Martha and Brian date for a long time Martha decides shes ready to have an intimate relationship, ends up with a baby and Brian begins to look at MARY now because she has NO responsibilities. Does Brian take responsibility? NO! Not usually, for the most part these girls become very alone and sad, they lose their friends one by one and the Father was gone the day he heard she was pregnant. So why does this happen so often? Uneducated teens or the fact that an act of intimacy is not thought of as a baby making thing but more of a good feeling thing. I like that you tried to let her see it as painful, but it would benefit her more if she realized the outcome. Show her your office where Federal Assistance is used to keep these kids FED! This is where you see the people that struggle with being single Moms. Have her imagine being woke up every morning at 2 and 4 and 6 AM! IT IS even more difficult without a spouse to help you. It changes your entire life. It doesn't make it bad, it simply makes it CHALLENGING and much more difficult. Theres nothing bad about a baby, it's the circumstances in which they get here that are sometimes hurtful. The emotions of a teen are difficult enough, but to add a baby to that puts way too much stress on a young girl. Teach her good values because I think you are her KEY to a very good future, if she really listens to you. You could change her outlook on the things that teens struggle with and make her stronger. Shes very fortunate to have a big sister! Always be honest with her but you don't have to give her details to be honest. Many young girls her age need to have advice like this from a mentor rather than a mother simply because they feel nervous. Better to come from you than a stranger with BAD ADVICE!!!! Talk to your Mom privately to see how she would like you to handle this. GOOD LUCK!
2016-03-28 03:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
devout catholics do not believe in murdering innocent babies either! Would she rather not tell him, kill the baby and base their entire relationship on a lie and risk him finding out later and hating her for murdering his child OR take the chance and tell him and have his parents be angry for a while and then everything work out in the end because they will love the baby once it is born? Also, if they do not get over it then she can place the child up for adoption and no one gets murdered.
2006-11-12 20:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she tries to naturally cause a miscarriage, she will regret it for the rest of her life. I'd rather be in trouble for a moment in my life that regret for the rest of my life. Besides she does not even know if she is pregnant. You can talk to her about using protection and STD's.
2006-11-12 22:00:45 · answer #4 · answered by carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is pregnant just support her and get her to Planned Parenthood, A lot of young people make the sound decision of having an abortion and being able to have children when they are ready. It does not have to be public knowledge. Low key it.
2006-11-12 19:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by messtograves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are herbal things she can do, I don't recommend them though. If she is willing to go kill this man's child without telling him why wouldn't she be willing to go get birth control like an IUD without telling him? She's being immature and not thinking reasonably. Not to mention she is catholic, he's catholic, THEY AREN'T MARRIED so WHY are they even having sex. If they are going to break one rule, why not break another (ie. birth control) while they're at it???
2006-11-12 19:48:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rochelle C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to quit having sex. If she can't have a baby, she needs to stop trying to make one. If she is pregnant, she should have the baby. Embarassment is alot easier to deal with that killing a child. His parents can get over it. But it would be hard for her to get over killing her first child.
2006-11-12 19:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a little internet research on herbal abortions.
Not 100% safe or reliable, but that didn't figure in your friends contraception either....
Best of Luck
2006-11-13 09:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is she sould keep the baby, myfamily is catholic and I had my first baby at 16 and they got over it.
2006-11-12 19:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by candice l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
natural miscarriages happen naturally. You can't control them
2006-11-12 19:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by The Potter Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋