Now that I look back on my relation with this person, it was pure hell, the emotional torture was not healthy for either of us. When you love a person, you try to do everything to make it work especially when you have a baby involved. I thought that I could take this person out of this world of strippers and give her everything, gifts, money, love, but in the end it just did not work out. I think a big problem was, there was no real trust between us, at first yes, but when you see certain people calling her phone and then after a while she places her phone on silent, for me this was just one of the problems i had to face. You see she had numerous clients and when she stopped working I had made it clear that all the **** stays in the club, do not bring it into our relationship. I have to trust my heart and gut instinct on this one and the attitude of my girlfriend towards the end was terrible, everything was my fault she says!!! Should I fight for this relationship or let her Go?
2006-11-12 18:54:51 · 12 answers · asked by Mo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uhh she was a stripper. Is that a good and respectable profession in your eyes? Is that what you want your kids to emulate? Get a great woman who has respect for herself. Don't let your dick rule./
2006-11-12 19:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this happen with a number of exotic dancers and strippers. It's lifestyle to most of them. With this I mean the sex, the men, everything that goes with it. A family life is out of the question until they reach the age that they are no longer welcome on the "circuit" then they look for that "other" life or marriage. Then it's you baby, they want you.
This is something that is very private, they don't want to talk about their past, they don't want the neighbors to know, their friends, etc. This is something you'll have to accept or, not. It's all up to you.
It takes a good man to accept a wife the was a stripper and..? it can work, but it'll be hard.
2006-11-12 23:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you wrote and how you feel about the situation I say it's best to just let it go. I don't blame you at all for feeling this way. She is in a position where it will be extremely hard for you to trust her and by the looks of it, it doesn't seem like you're willing to put up with it. You can both still be good parents to your child but as far as having a relationship together, I'm afraid you don't have much of a future together.
2006-11-12 19:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, you don't deserve her. You had given her everything but still she ignore your effort. It's not that she's a strip dancer but what's the sense of your effort when she don't even stay away from her work & still she have a contact w/ her client. It's really wrong in the first place that she didnt change. She should be thankfull for having you but it seems that she's not happy w/ you. So go & move on. Theres a lot of woman who deserves you & waiting for you. you'll never know someone is just waiting for you & you deserve each other. Good luck.
2006-11-12 19:10:30 · answer #4 · answered by housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'd probably have to go through years of therapy to get out of stripper mentality which involves seeing men as suckers from which to extract cash. I would say give it a try only if she's willing to go through both individual counseling and couples counceling. And in all likelihood the therapist would want her to detach from ALL relationships while detoxing from the stripper world.
2006-11-12 19:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you being a relationship with anyone in those types of Fields it ill become an issue at some point or another. If she is unwilling to listen to you requests and blames you for things out of your control then it is time to leave. I am sorry that y'all brought a baby into the equation and if you believe that she is unsafe when in the mother's care i would file for custody
2006-11-12 19:07:30 · answer #6 · answered by icanansweryourquestions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a job one time working at a strip club; and no one ever took the girls seriously. I mean they never went to meet mom. and the girls were always looking for the next guy. their average boy friend lasted maybe 3 weeks not 3 years. So should you let her go?? yes!!!
2006-11-12 19:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have your head on straight...Let her go! Run, run, run and be free! You don't need the BS - life's too short. A relationship is based on trust. That is, you can't have love without trust. Trust is the foundation!
2006-11-12 19:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she wants to fight for this relationship and if her heart isn't in it then your chance of it working are slim to none. But thats just my opinion.
2006-11-12 19:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Trinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it was bad, u made your choice already, you called it off. No need to get back involved, just take care of your child..
2006-11-12 19:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋