I have had 3 sexual encounters with my girlfriend thus far and everytime I start I get hard than go soft again because my heart begins to race and I get really nervous she is sexually experinced and i am not this would be my first time having real sex with someone that likes me and i like them back alot...so I dont know what the problem is please help
2006-11-12 18:33:40 · 20 answers · asked by Dave n 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
relax... you are concentrating too much. just enjoy sex. cheers!
2006-11-12 18:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax bud! Try this - ask your girlfriend to give you a massage for 15-30 minutes. There's to be no sx during this - just relaxing but nude massage. Now you'll be more relaxed. So switch so that you are giving the massage - oil her up and massage all over. First relaxing and then start lubing and massing the more sensitive areas. The oils and rubbing will get you worked up and at that point...give her a full dose of you manhood! Congratulations young man.
2006-11-12 18:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with foreplay. dont go to fast either. and she is ready to have sex with you, just be honest with her and tell her what your thinking. She will work with you in every way if she likes you alot and shes a cool girl. There is nothing to be afraid of, everyone has a first time.
also, if it gets hard and then soft then i would talk to a doctor maybe. Do you have any problems with masterbation?
2006-11-12 18:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the problem! nerves. listen just relax and talk to her about how you feel nervous in an honest yet JOKING way! everythings ok with a great sence of humor. you are normal! make light of it . she'll like it and youll feel better just being honest!Even though she doesnt have to know how serious you are! ppl love HUMAN honesty! YOU can do it!
2006-11-12 18:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah first days of faculty are nerve wraking now and lower back. Like what in the adventure that your schedule is tousled and you'll be able to desire to stand up in front of the entire classification and say what's incorrect, then the instructor sends you to the workplace the place there are like yet another hundred human beings waiting to get their schedules replaced. Then the bell rings for the subsequent classification and you're nevertheless in line after which you'll be able to desire to omit the class. So, you omit your 2nd classification and the counselor finally see's you. nicely it seems the coulselor gets a decision and has to bypass someplace, so which you're sitting in the chilly workplace thinking whilst the counselor will come lower back and likewise thinking in the adventure that your hair is effective with the aid of fact your weigh down is status suitable outdoors of the door. the counselor finally comes, and it takes like 2 seconds to repair the difficulty, now the actual difficulty is having to sqweez in the time of the team to be previous due on your 2nd classification just to understand which you acquire your 2nd classification tousled besides so which you'll be able to desire to bypass lower back. so which you attempt to get into the class that your weigh down is going into and once you eventually do, he dropped it for wiegt lifting. then you certainly bypass residing house and think of "oh crap" in view which you sighned your self up for 2 AP instructions and a couple of honors instructions and it is all down hill from here. so yeah =)
2016-10-17 05:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by rochart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait, it doesn't sound like you are ready. You should not be scared or nervous, you should be calm and ready. I also think you should have some more encounters and do more things before you actually do IT, because that can make things less tense when you DO do it. If she is pressuring you I think you should tell her that you aren't ready.
2006-11-12 19:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Thread 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would help is you voicing your concerns to you girlfriend. You might be embarassed/shy to at first, but just remember that women are very understanding when it comes to physical hang-ups. Just tell her how you feel and the problem will definatley go away.
2006-11-15 05:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by in_my2ndlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it so much! Be honest and focus on HER. Tell her what you are telling us, "I really like you, but my heart is beginning to race and I am really nervous". She'll be flattered! Then, if you can't do certain things...do certain OTHER things....if you know what I mean. Then you will surprise yourself and be ready, willing and able.
2006-11-12 18:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink a few beers and have lot of foreplay before trying to enter, once u are in you don't go down!,
and caution with that, nervous can lead you to ejaculate too fast.
2006-11-12 18:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Mauricio H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your concentrating too much that your going to have sex instead of relaxing and just letting it happen your letting your thinking about having sex get in the way stop thinking about having sex and just relax and enjoy what's happening
2006-11-12 18:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you please relax. It's not all about your self doubt, bro.
Just focus on the feelings you have when you hold and kiss each other. Let nature take its course.
A shot of alcohol always helps. Not too much though.
2006-11-12 18:36:29 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋