I've never had anyone tell me stuff like this. I REALLY need HELP!??

Question

How do I even begin to reply to this?! What should I Say. My girlfriend & I got into a fight and moments later she emailed me back with
"bullshit. to you it maybe but to me its not. I belieaved her cause ii was hurt and in my head not ever not once did i ever thinking about cheating on you or even being with someone else. and those two reaons ive been talking about are really not bullshit cause they hurt me more then anything! I have never told you these because i hate to talk about them but one reason is because i guess my dad left my mom never wanting to know about me hear about me see me not even wast his time or money on me and thats one thing ive always been hurt about and the other is omg i cant belieave i have to say it i was Raped OK! by my favorite cousin when i was little he was my favorite the one i trusted and he did that to me and i have always remembered i mean its something i will NEVER forget!!!

i still have nightmares and i still cry at random times when i have to see him or when i just think about what he did. he made me promise i would never tell anyone and i never did i was to scared!! but those are my two reaons ok NOT bullshit!! ive always had low selfesteem since then even if i act like i am ok and think im hot i dont i hate myself thats why i dont eat and why i always feel the need to be wanted and showed how much im cared about and im sorry that this is all bullshit to you

Answer 1

Oh my God. Your friend needs a lot of help and a lot of support, and she needs to tell someone about the rape, and she told you. I think you need to tell someone. Tell your parents. She needs a lot of help.

Tell her you love her and will support her. Tell her you will be there for her. Tell her she needs to tell about the rape because it will not go away. It will haunt her for the rest of her life if she doesn't take care of it, and she needs to get therapy. If she's not eating, she is trying to kill herslf. This is way too big for either one of you to handle, alone or together.

I know she promised her cousin not to tell, but what he did to her will haunt her for the rest of her life. He needs to be punished. Her mother needs to know what happened. Or a counselor in school. Someone.

Answer 2

Hi,

She needs alot of comfort and affection at the moment! What happened to her is a girls worst nightmare, And she will have that thought on her mind for the rest of her life, However, the only way to atleast soften the situation, Is for her to talk it therough with a Psychiatrist!

Trust me, I know someone who that happened to, She seeked professional help and it worked! Obviously what happened will never go away, but she has to sort it out sooner or later, Or things Will get worse!

Give her alot of support and attention! You need to be there for her 24 / 7. Yes it is hard and it will be hard, But that is what needs to be done! Also, Try and make sure she always has something to keep her busy, That way she wont have time to think about things!

Answer 3

Great that finally she opned up to you and was telling all her feelings watever she had in her heart which had been a dark impact on her life.
Be supporting to her and explain yourself. How well you think u can understand her and tell her you are willing to be there for her all the time. Quarrels are normal but staying together despite that needs a stronge relatiionship between the two of you. Tell her that you guys have that and can be there for each other.

Answer 4

The fact you are taking a pause and asking for help means you care about this person and you want to get it right. Whatever suggestions you're given on Yahoo think about each one, and do what feels right. My advice is to let her know you care about her, and that you feel bad something so horrible happened to her. Let her know you are there for her, and that you wish you could take her pain away and make it better. Hugs to both of you.