I fell in love with a guy (ok, we'll call him Guy just for ease) many years ago. Time and circumstance separated us. Now all these years later we have found each other (through the internet of course). We still love each other. We are both married. I have separated from my husband (not exactly related but not exactly not related, and yes we have filed for divorce). Guy tells me he wants to leave his wife, he wants to be with me, yadda, yadda, yadda. Am I being a total fool here? I know he loves me. I truly love him more than I ever really knew. But am I just wasting my time and energy?
2006-11-12 17:14:20 · 21 answers · asked by lizzie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was destiny for both you. Obviously you were meant to be together or your paths wouldn't keep crossing. Don't rush, be patient and let him get through what he needs to do.
2006-11-12 17:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once he leaves his wife and you leave your husband everything will be perfect; for about a year or two. Then you will notice that he is exactly like you ex and he will think the same of you. Next one of you will run into an old friend.....Just stay where you are and avoid the hassle.
2006-11-12 17:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Scott H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have children with her? If so, leave him alone. If not, still leave him alone. If he truly loves you and wants to be with you, he will seperate from her and file for divorce like a real, somewhat respectable man. However, if he just wants to keep you on the side and stay with her out of convienence.... he's not worth the bother.
2006-11-12 17:20:06 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's really serious he will leave his wife....If he really loves you he will leave his wife. It has already been a number of years for you both so if it is meant to be it will happen. I would pursue the situation for a little while but I wouldn't spend too much time on it.
2006-11-12 17:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by Teena R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves his wife to be with you, what will stop him from leaving you to be with someone else? I would think about this long and hard before I decided either way. I suppose the best thing to do is wait and see if he really does divorce his wife and go from there. Whatever you do, don't see him while he's still married because married men are good for one thing - going home to their wives!!!
2006-11-12 17:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
depart. commence a sparkling life. you'll love her, yet you're prepared to love your self. commence that new life you commonly dreamed about as a contortionist with the circus contained in the French Riveria. imagine of it now, strolling through peanut shells on your bare fingers. Afterwards, a hearty beer with the goat guy and the bearded lady. Sounds dreamy. depart. commence a sparkling life. have a good time with your children and if she even somewhat loves you nonetheless, distance makes the coronary heart develop fonder. Be a competent dad and be civil. educate her why she fell in love with you contained in the first position. ok....you do not haaave to be a contortionist, even though it did sound relaxing did not it?
2016-11-23 18:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOt rediculous, but unfortunately, until he actually does so, I wouldn't bank on it. I've been in love with a man for 15 years. I would leave my man for him in a split 2nd, but in the mean time, it is a heartache. I truly understand how hard it is.
2006-11-12 17:18:01 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you expect him to leave his wife than yes it is kind of ridiculous for you to want such a thing however if he is saying he is going to leave his wife than instead of expect you should look at like this when it happens it happens if it dont than it dont, I hope all works out for you GOOD LUCK
2006-11-12 17:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by mommyandbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is ridiculous for you t expect him to leave his wife. men usually are more complicated than women. it is not easy for a man to leave his wife. we, men consider the consequences of our actions. there are many factors that affects our decisions one of it is the feeling of the peope or person who are involve in the situation. in the situation of your man. he will consider the feeling of his wife. what will happen if he leave his wife. what are the things that might get wrong or may ruin the feeling of his wife as a human being. it is easier to leave his wife when his wife doesn't love him anymore.
2006-11-12 17:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you filed for divorce and he haven't yet. I guess he not that much in love with you as you think. Both of you guys are wrong for cheating on your spouses. What makes you think that you are so special that you wont cheat on you when you guys do get together. I hate when people do this. You and him are selfish.
2006-11-12 17:21:23 · answer #10 · answered by Apple 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think Guy will leave him wife. It is easier for him to remian with her being unhappy then it would be for him to divorce her and actually be happy. Unfortunately most people would rather do whats easy then what is best for them.
2006-11-12 17:19:32 · answer #11 · answered by Lauren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋