I am married with 2 children. I met my wife about 10 years ago and loved her very much. We got married about 2ys later. Everything went fine and I was ok with my life. Until a year and half ago when I met a woman through work. This woman changed my life upsidedown. She is very different. I feel very happy when I see her. I forget everything around me when I am with her. I am sure that I love her. I tried to stop my feelings for her many many times but I coudnt. I took long vaccations, changed phone numbers , faked arrgumrnts with her and stopped seeing her for long durations but I was never able to forget her. Then I realized that there is just no way to deny that I fell in love. I still love my wife too. I dont want to hurt her feelings. And I dont want to destroy my family. The problem is that woman didnt want to have a relation with me as long as I am married. I am in severe pain when I am seeing her go away to someone else. And I just can't leave my wife. Why cant I just have both
2006-11-12 17:00:53 · 13 answers · asked by tom c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you for the comments to all of you. I decided to just move to another city with my family and forget about this woman.
But really I now think and believe that it is possible for a man to love 2 women at the same time. And the love would be true for both. For a woman, i.e for the majority of them, Usually one man would be what is more satisfying for her
2006-11-13 05:56:48 · update #1
You answered your own question. You said you still love your wife and you don't want to destroy your family. You HAVE to let the other person go. You are probably posting this to see if someone will tell you differently. Nobody will. Do not call the other woman. Do not hang out where she goes. If you work together, request a transfer to another area. You will destroy your marriage and family if you do otherwise. You can't have both because BOTH will be upset and you will end up with NOTHING.
2006-11-12 17:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You meet people everyday that can change your relationship with your wife. You let things get out of hand bc you feel the need as a man to feel wanted by another woman.
Think for a minute if you lost your wife and kids bc of her- would she stick around? It can be the excitement of wanting something forbidden that makes it fun.
A marriage of 10 yrs with a woman you still love and who gave you children is something you should get down on your knees and thank god for. Do you have any idea on lucky you are to have found and married someone? To still be loved by her 10 yrs later? You will destroy your the woman who 10 yrs ago you would gave the world too. The woman who chose to raise a family with you...and someone who plans on growing old with you. Dont blow this on a co worker. A strong sexy respected man ..is a man who knows how good he has it and does everything in his power to keep his vows of marriage strong.
2006-11-13 01:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think about this, if the situation was different and your wife was in love with another man could she have both? Think long and hard before you do something you are sorry for. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. Do you want to destroy your children's life....because they are the one that usually pay the price for a parent messing around.
2006-11-13 01:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The old saying, 'you can't have your cake and eat it too' applies well to this situation. You have to choose, unless you are a Mormon and move to Utah and then that's a whole other bag of chips there. But, you say you don't want to destroy your family. Buddy, you already ARE destroying your family by loving another woman. If your wife finds out, and believe me she will, you won't have to make a choice because she'll make it for you!!!!
2006-11-13 01:15:19 · answer #4 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus in your wife,focus in your marriage.Do not let , a desire destroy your happy marriage and family.Try to love more your wife and children,and that woman will disappear from your mind forever.That happen to many men around the world.If they are strong,the marriage will be stronger;if they are weak,they destroy their marriage.At the end, the children pay the consequences of one desire.Forget it about that woman.God bless you,and make you strong enough to put out that wrong thinking.Good luck.
2006-11-13 01:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not love but a physical attraction about the other woman. Learn something from other woman who is having atleast the sense thats why she don't want to get involve with married person. So don't spoil your family and just to feel happy at heart by looking at other woman.
2006-11-13 01:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by sujitksagar 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are driven by their desires. Worse - they couldn't have control over their desires and sometimes let them ruin their life.
You are lost in your desires now. Like drunk.
Think about the consequences. What if you will lose both women in the end? Can you afford that? 10 years of trust vs. 2 years of 'sparkles of love'.
The answer is in your own heart.
2006-11-13 01:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by jibejibe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have both because it is wrong! You are destroying your family. Where are your morals? I advise you to get your priorities straight and end this relationship and put all your time into your family. I feel sorry for your wife!
2006-11-13 01:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by MILAYA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP BEING SELFISH! IF YOU LOVE YOUR FAMILY DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR THEM SO MANY TIMES PPL DO WHAT MAKES THEM HAPPY AND TO HELL WITH THE PAIN THEY PUT ON THEIR CHILDERN AND SPOUSES YOU TOOK A VOW TO YOUR WIFE AND YOU BETTER HONOR IT ARE YOU WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH GOD ON THIS ONE AND AS FOR NOT WANTING TO SEE YOU AS LONG AS YOU ARE MARRIED MAYBE THAT A WAY OF SAYING GET LOST!1
2006-11-13 01:06:33 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u cant have both try to hold on to ur wife and leave the other alone it was lust not love
2006-11-13 01:07:45 · answer #10 · answered by sandy k 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋