I'm 21.5 yrs male with a 5digit salaried IT job.I love a girl who is just in 9th standard.i know she is too young but i'm unable stop this feeling and i have planned well for the future with her.now i'm nearabt 2500 kms away frm her but the crazy didn't decrease.I know i can't live without her.i haven't talked with her yet.but i know well abt her family.one of their family frnd is mine too.guys jus help me how can i express or is it not practical?my brother knows this well.i can't express right now as she is too unmatured to face this.what to do?
2006-11-12 16:35:41 · 19 answers · asked by keekee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
shes too young .. and mabbe she doesnt have the same feelings for you .. even if she has it at this age she might change later in life and so is the case with you as even 21 is not very old ... wait for 23 years by which you will meet lot of young girls your age in life ... and then decide .. if you make your move now you might spoil it for everyone ... all the best ....
2006-11-12 23:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by edifiz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your situation compleately! and let me give you some peace of mind by saying that you are not the first man on earth to be in such a situation. The age difference between you and that girl is of 7years and this is not too much. however at this point pf time it seems so because the girl right now is not of a marriageable age.
I respect you discreetion in this matter too. by keeping your feelings secret you have spared the girl (and not to mention yourself) from a lot of emnaressment.
What you need to think about now is this. In today's times the right age for a girl to get married starts from 23 onwards. which means her parents will be keen of getting her married only after 9 years from now! which means you too will be 30 by then. at that time a woman of 23 marrying a man of 30 wont sound as strange as a 21year old goin around with a girl in 9th standard.
see the difference?
Now that i have out a clear picture in front of you, there are many other things to think about. the main question being, how to spend these 9 years???
rest asure that girls family is gonna take good care of her. she will be busy with her education, her Board results, career choices, and ofcource her own crushes and boy friends.
you know that if you express your feelings towards her now itself thern there is no chance of her family accepting it, in fact it might even ruin all your chances of staying in touch them in future too.
if you deciede to wait then it might happen that you get the girl. so my suggestion is that you concentrate on making a good life. stay in touch with that girl and her family but only as a family friend. so that you have an idea about what's going on in her life and also that her family will trust you after 9years when you ask for her hand.
in the mean time keep your priorities right.
also if you find it difficult to hide your feelings in presence od that girl(which is very common) then it will be better that you stay way from her. make sure you spend time with ppl of your age group also.(both boys and girls) this will lessen the pain of staying away from her.
now that i have given my advice, every thing is in your hands. you can either take it and start living a practical life where there is a good chance of etting that girl in the end even if the end is about a decade away. or else you can become devdas and be sad all these 9 years and ruin all the chances of ever getting that girls.
2006-11-12 17:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in love with the girl and have the guts and calm to wait till she becomes fit to be proposed, do that provided your crazy passion will remain at the present rate. A difference of around 6 years between you and she is not going to be of any material effect for your marriage at opportune time.
2006-11-12 18:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
Please for your and her sake wait for a couple of years. There is nothing wrong in falling in love with someone who is younger to you but it is definitely wrong to get into relationship when either one is a minor and the other one has come of age.
See the age difference between me and my my husband is 9 years. Now if my husband would have proposed me when i would be in 9th std my dad would probably kill him and other than that my studies, my normal teen and my career life all would have gone for a toss. But today look i am happily married, have a son and a bright future ahead.
So my friend wait and be patient don't steal her teen years from her. If you truly love her wait for her and be patient. When she comes of age and is matured enough than you can express your love for her but till than you have got to wait.
Good luck and god bless
2006-11-12 17:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only 21, wait for few years. Don't disturb the poor girl. Let her do her studies. Do not divert her attention. You also settle in life. Review the situation after say four to five years. If you are sensible enough you will do this.
2006-11-12 16:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a kid dude. Better wait for 3-4 years; and if you still feel the same then make the move.
2006-11-12 16:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Ankur M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man... u have become mad..what u need immediatly is a counsellor..there are cores of gals in the world,why u behind this kid???you will spoil her future by your insane love.forget this for good dude..i guess u are quite shy kinda guy n dont like to mingle with mature girls of ur age... make like minded frends..she will automatically vanish from ur mind..take care..
2006-11-12 17:20:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not a big factor for true love.Wait for some more time to express your feeling with her . Real love never fails.
2006-11-12 16:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by zenega p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in nineth grade! Someone should kick your prepubescent craving face in! She is a f***ing freshman in HIGHSCHOOL! Do you want to end up registering as a sexual offender? God help you if her father finds outl.
2006-11-12 16:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by feargov 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better wait for somemore years.. she s too young.. Dont make her overburden for ur feelings.. Think of her too.. She s a child now.. Think and decide..
2006-11-12 19:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by visakagn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋