4 3 years we have one son. When i met him he was going through a rough marrige.... she wasc heating they had 3 kids together. But now it's been 3 years and he hasnt got divorced they r legally seperated. But he tells me that if he gets divorced that she wants alimony..... he already pays alot of child support. What should i do? we have a child does that make diff?
2006-11-12 16:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by me............ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unforutnately, he is playing you, and it's working. Look how long you've stayed around waiting for him to leave his wife. Break it off. Becuase if he hasn't left already , he won't be leaving any time soon. Don't involve yourself in any realtionships for a while. Just focus on making your life better for your self and your child.
2006-11-12 16:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? Do you want to stay with him even though he is divorced?
Arent you worth more than being with a man who wouldnt divorce someone and start new bc of alimony. It also sets a tone on how things would be if he and you ever got divorced. Have you ever thought he may not be getting a divorce bc he hopes it might work out someday or if he does get that divorce you may want more out of him.
Do what is right for you and your child. As woman you should be ready for anything life throws at you..with or without the a man by your side
2006-11-13 00:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him do it..as far as taking care of his "past life."
As far as you and him, I don't think he a good match for you.
Please start dating others! Even tho you DO have a child together, I still think at THIS TIME, he is not a match made in heaven, at least for you. He needs to totally work on his situation with her...and of course help you with your son.
You need to be with someone who can pay total attention to a romance with you..do not settle!
IF he goes thru the divorce and still want to date you (and you also want to date him) then make sure you a ready for more kids in your life.
Good luck!!
Sandy
2006-11-13 00:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him pay child support for your child, then go find yourself a real man. He is not getting a divorce. I do not think you know what you would be getting into.
2006-11-13 00:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by shyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So for three years you have been committing adultery. Nope your having a child makes no difference, he is STILL legally married, and until he is divorced you will STILL be committing adultery. How are you going to explain that to your child as he/she get's older?
2006-11-13 01:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is up to you.He is not getting divorce,never.If you think,that you can be strong; and you will be okay, being a single mother,do it.God will give you a man without compromises,that will love you indeed, and will love your son too.Think well,think in your future life,and in your son too.God bless you , God bless your son too.Good luck.
2006-11-13 00:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A question like this reminds me that I am in a healthy relationship because we decided to wait to have kids. You two procreate like it is going out of style. Just keep popping out kids, it will work itself out.
2006-11-13 00:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by NightTrainWooWoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO LEAVE HIM TO HIS WIFE AND MOVE ON
WITH YOUR CHILD. TRUST ME HE PLAYING GAMES WITH
YOU, IF HE REALLY WANT OUT OF THE MARRIAGE HE
WOULD HAVE GOTTEN THE DIVORCE. THE ONLY THING
THAT YOU CAN DO IS BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILD
AND MAKE HIM PAY CHILD SUPPORT FOR HIS CHILD
WITH YOU. WHAT HE WANT HIS CAKE AND PIE TOO.
2006-11-13 00:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got yourself into a bad situation. She has a lot of power over his income, and so do you because of those children. I really dont know what to tell you, its all on him. I dont understand why women put men on child support if they are already willing to support their kids. Greedy *** bitter women. I dunno, hun. good luck though.
2006-11-13 00:37:48 · answer #9 · answered by hersheekysses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MIGHT BE IN A ROUGH SITUATION. TRY TO GET OUT CAUSE YOU REALLY WONT HAVE MUCH LEFT FOR YOURSELF.
2006-11-13 00:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by misskashmere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋