This person is always stirring the pot in the family and she has said some really bad things about me! Everyone agrees but no one will stand up to her! I really don't want to go, but its my husband family and I don't want to keep him from the rest of his family,but he says he won't go without me,what should I do ?
2006-11-12 16:29:05 · 15 answers · asked by gracie4 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
I respected my late wife enough and loved her enough that if there was a problem like this, we could make plans we could both be comfortable with. A day off from work, why squander it on destructive people? If he says he won't go without you, he's made his choice. The two of you should go have fun.
2006-11-12 16:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband isn't all that keen on going. Why don't you start your own Thanksgiving traditions. You cook dinner for you and your husband. Even better if you have children. He can visit with the family at other times of the year. That way everyone will have fun instead of indigestion.
2006-11-12 18:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nora Explora 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go. We all have a family member like that. Ours is my mother-in-law. She doesn't stab you in the back like that but she yells at everyone the whole time you're with her because she's Italian and that's the way she talks to people. No offense to Italians. I love them and married one. No one wants to be with her and no one will stand up to her either. I did once and she got all p'd off at me and we didn't speak for a year. Some people are poison people and you just see them when you absolutely have to. Good luck.
2006-11-12 16:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best revenge is success you know. Walk in there as happy as can be and talk about all the good things in your life. That will make the wench miserable. Reverse psychology works every time. Glad I could help.
2006-11-12 16:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by dww32720 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just wait for her to say something and then say "You have something to say about everything, don't you?" and then drop it. If a war starts then at least you know everyone will agree with you...if not aloud then at least in spirit. I would go...unless you don't care about your husband's feelings. I go to things with my husband all of the time that I don't want to go to...but I like him and want him to be happy. He does the same for me.
I say that line to my brother-in-law all of the time and he doesn't even know I'm really annoyed with him.
2006-11-12 17:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make other plans. If he misses out seeing his family to be with you, let him know that it's his choice and his family's choice for not standing up for you. Do not allow yourself to be sucked into guilt.
2006-11-12 16:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if no one will stand up for you, well then I would have dinner at home just you and your husband, or go out to have thanksgiving dinner, it is not fair for your husband to expect you to take this abuse.
2006-11-12 16:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You must. Meet that person and hug her tightly to say that you are standing upto her bravely. Give a peck on both the cheeks.
This is the best occasion to clear the cobwebs. Do it. All the best to you and your family. Once you do this, I am sure you will say thanks to me.
2006-11-12 16:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would not go to be treated badly,have a thanks giving dinner at home w/friends and family. apparently this person doesn't mean much to him either. enjoy your holiday w/lots of love.don't feel like you are keeping him from anything,thats why we all have our own traditions. happy holidays.
2006-11-13 05:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go. Why be miserable? Start a new tradition with your husband.
2006-11-12 16:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋