I'm 20 years old and I can not figure out the way to fix my self-esteem issues. I know lots of other people of all ages deal with this, but I really just want to be happy. What to do, cuz I don't know.
2006-11-12 16:20:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Affirmations
They way you think affects the way you feel.
low self-esteem can be caused by a number of reasons, the cause does not matter. Don't focus on the problem focus on the solution.
I have taught these affirmations to a number of people.
I am a worthwhile person
I love myself unconditionally
I deserved to be loved by myself and others
I forgive myself for hurting myself and others
I forgive myself for letting others hurt me
I am not alone, I am one with God and the universe
I am capable of changing
and I'm doing it, one day at a time
And I'm happy... Because....
I'm Alive, I'm alive, I'm alive
Repeat aloud at least once a day.
You can also add others that you feel you need to say to yourself.
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2006-11-12 16:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a process that relies almost entirely on your self in terms of resolving the issue. as another person who answered said, it is up to you to decide when you are ready to come out of this negativity. i think it might also help if you look for a therapist just to guide you, listen to you and help sort everything out, because poor self esteem is something that is acquired, as is good self-esteem. there are things throughout ones life that will forever affect the way one perceives him/herself. i think a lot of times, just talking and letting everything out is a big help. there is a big difference between talking to a friend/ loved one and talking with a professional. i'm not saying you're crazy or anything, but it's probably best to talk to someone who understands what you are dealing with and who will be able to properly give you help. also, for self-help, try to find out what you negatively focus on the most and try to sort out why it is that you do so. keep a journal and work on sorting out why you came about thinking these certain negative things about yourself. maybe there is an old event that took place that is still hauning you. finding why you might think them, you can probably disprove them.
2006-11-12 17:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by jamoncita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Developing a good self-esteem takes time. It may take months, years, but it really depends on you. First off, stop looking at your flaws and the negative aspects about yourself. Learn to love things about you. Find out what you enjoy doing and what you're good at. Stop comparing yourself to others. You are unique. Know that you're worthy of people's attention and love.
2006-11-12 16:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by jenahfah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that helped me go from a severly depressed, suicide-fixated miser to a relatively content person were tons and tons of introspection, philosophy books, psychology books, and the level-headedness to not expect too much from people. Delve into existential philosophy, it talks about all that sort of stuff. Freud and Jung are good people to go to for knowing some of the reasons why you're so depressed. But ultimately, you decide when you want to be happy and there's nothing we can do to help you come to that realization until you're ready for it. Good luck.
2006-11-12 16:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is to surround yourself by other people that make you feel good. Stay away from those that talk negatively about others, and don't have anything good to say about you. It works every time!
2006-11-12 16:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by 2Good4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to yourself in the mirror notice the good things about yourself and be proud of them, dont take peoples comment to heart
2006-11-12 16:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find the true you. how?
As people we want to find ourselves and pursue all kinds things and travel down various roads in order to find ourselves.My honest advice is that we can only find our true identity in Christ Jesus. He, as the Son of God and god Himself, is the only one who can unlock the true person within me as He gently and lovingly lead me into God's divine plan for my life. As this unfolds [for it is a process] I learn about my weaknesses and my strengths and how to overcome the former. I learn that I am a special and unique being, created in the image of her Father in heaven and that I have great value in His sight. I learn not to allow the judgments of others to destroy me. I learn to live in truth and honesty by being true to myself [and therefor to God] I learn to overcome my fears and to accept the things I cannot change.
I learn to accept myself for who I am [in Christ] and that I am here to make a difference and to add to the quality of life on this planet.
I learn that who I am is not defined by others or circumstances, but by the One who dwells in me.
It is process, day by day and there is no quick fix solutions here.
2006-11-12 16:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by godshandmaiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋