I am trying to get as much information as possible on living with a boyfriend or girlfriend before marraige. Statistics say that couples who do this are 46% more likely to get divorced.
Did you ever live with a boyfriend/ girlfriend before marriage? was it a good idea? are you still together?
Thanks so much for everyones help !
2006-11-12 15:59:42 · 24 answers · asked by *Amanda* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, thank God!!! Those statistics sound a little strange. As a matter of fact almost every married couple I know was living together before marriage and the majority of them are very happy. You never really know someone until you live with them. What a big surprise it would be to get married not having the slightest idea what the other person is really like. There is a lot to learn about someone you haven't lived with- and while some of it may be good, there are always the things that are nice to know before you decide wether or not you are going to spend your life living with that person (trust me!!!!)
2006-11-12 16:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by Reese 3 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I have been married for almost 19 years (Nov 27th). We did live together for about 5 months but I can honestly say that I learned absolutely nothing during that time that helped us during our marriage. What I do know is trust is a huge factor and unconditional love. Being able to forgive anything is a huge component to a long lasting marriage. You have to forgive. Being right is a sure way to divorce court. We have survived financial, emotional, and health issues through out our marriage. We have each done things that others would have gotten a divorce over. I would recommend an engagement period without living together to figure out if you are ready for marriage. Remember it is hard, very hard to make a marriage work. That is why so many marriages end because people stop working at making them work. Good Luck & God Bless.
2006-11-12 16:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by tab 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Everyone to their own, I did a research on marriage a few years back and I found that couples who had lived together prior to marriage had a higher divorce rate than those that hadn't. With the right lady, i'd do it, i'm not too worried about marriage now, been there, done that once.
2016-03-19 07:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my wife prior to getting married. I think it is a positive thing. I just didn't do it long enough before marriage. I disagree with another respondent a year is definitely not long enough time. During that period you are still in the 'newlywed' stage and haven't settled in enough to really see what the person is like. In the beginning both parties are in love and yet still insecure causing them to treat each other with greater deference than they would once they are more comfortable. Someone gave me the one year rule when I moved in with my wife and in retrospect that was too short a time frame to learn someones quirks.
Definitely give it a go if you think he might be the one. Just didn't rush from living together to marriage. It takes at least a couple years to figure out each other and if it will work WELL for both of you.
2006-11-12 16:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by matt813 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
living together going on 19 years, and why were not married? well why mess up what we have, two boys, two houses (our 1st is a rental now) we just act as if we were husband and wife with the paper work not done, works for us and were very happy with the way it's turned out for us, most of our friends have gone the married path and are no longer together, and I think this adds to our decision to keep what we have. one day we'll have the wedding we have all ways wanted and file for divorce the next day.
really I see it as being a personal choice rather if you want to or not, does it make it any easier parting ways not being married? within the first year i would say yes, after the years goes by you have intertwined yourselves in many more ways than you could ever think of that it's just like going in and getting a divorce when parting ways.
good luck with your decision,and make everyday count, being husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, or two partners are all the same, trust, honesty, and communication are just a few things that keep it in balance.
good luck.
2006-11-12 16:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Moved in together after we got married. 5 years later, still strong.
I think that living together beforehand negates the obligation of marriage. People don't take marriage seriously any more and think they can get out whenever they want for no reason at all. Marriage is to be taken seriously and not treated like an old pair of pants. :)
2006-11-12 16:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by the_proms 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I have lived with my gf's before marriage (never been married), and I would be delighted to have you come stay with me for a while..
we could burn one, take a long walk together, and let our puppies run and play until they are all worn out.. then we could come home and burn another one before we go wear ourselves out ;)
2006-11-13 02:33:12 · answer #7 · answered by thatoneguy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I did, we met in March 95, he moved in end of Jan96, we got engaged Dec 96, Married August 97. When we got married I was 2 months pregnant.. We now have 3 kids and are still married. You make the judgement. Its a partnership and what you make out of it. good Luck
2006-11-12 16:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
i lived four years with my girlfriend before getting married. now we are celebrating our fifth anniversary and we have a beautiful daughter four years old.
when she'll grow up i will recommend her to live with her boyfriend before she gets married..
Would you buy a car before trying it? Same with a husband or wife...
The small things of everyday life spent together create either a bond or a fracture...it is better to find out before the marriage if your boyfriend farts like a pig or burps after lunch....these things, the small ones, are usually hidden during dating, but not easily if you live together...
good luck
2006-11-12 16:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by lovephoto 5 · 5⤊ 4⤋
No, I did not...
Pleanty of sex before marriage though..
I took her virginity 9 months before we married..
About 1 month after we started dating..
No, she was not pregnant..
I married her about 4 months after she turned 18...
Married for many years....
Never cheated on her...
2006-11-12 16:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋